I live!
This has been a few months when I've had zero time to do anything, but somehow feel like I haven't been all that productive. As such, this will be a less than comprehensive rundown of important points.
I have met with and talked to Helen on several occasions since my last post. She has finally seen the light outside of her awful relationship with her ex, found someone else and explained her conduct towards Greg.
Basically, I had broken up with somebody who was good fun, but ultimately no good and found a handsome, charming educated somebody six weeks later. She felt trapped with her unhealthy, abusive dead-end relationship. She felt hideous envy and took it out on Greg because I'm her best friend and she couldn't direct it at me. She was very depressed.
I forgive her, of course. That goes without saying. Despite being handsome, charming and educated, Greg is very insecure and will take some bringing round. He's barely convinced that *I* like him. His reluctance towards Helen is understandable, because all he has to go on is her conduct in the past, which was very un-Helenish. I live in hope.
Helen has a new boyfriend now, who is loving and respectful and to whom she is attracted and with whom sex is fun and respectful and silly and not painful or uncomfortable or awkward. He's coming to visit and I hope that when Greg sees Helen be a happy Helen, he'll understand and try to be her friend.
Hel and I shared hilarious sex anecdotes. In one of her first sexual encounters with her new boyfriend, they left the curtains and the window wide open. His flatmate, during a cigarette break, got an eye-full of a topless Helen astride his friend. Glorious. What larks!
Greg and I are doing great. We're taking a trip together soon, and we're planning together and being excited. We remain communicative and he's opening up about sexual stuff he enjoys or would like to try. It's a lot of fun. For example he has expressed (in a way that seemed more like a guilty confession) that he enjoyed some acts and positions than he has previously let on. This, and other things we have both suggested, are becoming a more frequent topic of conversation. I don't know if he's more comfortable with himself, or more comfortable with me, but either way it's progress. I feel like we're on more of an even footing, because I have always been of the mind that "If you don't ask, you don't get!" when it comes to sex, but apparently that is a new idea to him.
I've taken up running as a way to try and get back in shape. I'm also eating (slightly) better. Couch to 5k programs have worked for me before, in conjunction with other workouts. So, we'll see!
I have met with and talked to Helen on several occasions since my last post. She has finally seen the light outside of her awful relationship with her ex, found someone else and explained her conduct towards Greg.
Basically, I had broken up with somebody who was good fun, but ultimately no good and found a handsome, charming educated somebody six weeks later. She felt trapped with her unhealthy, abusive dead-end relationship. She felt hideous envy and took it out on Greg because I'm her best friend and she couldn't direct it at me. She was very depressed.
I forgive her, of course. That goes without saying. Despite being handsome, charming and educated, Greg is very insecure and will take some bringing round. He's barely convinced that *I* like him. His reluctance towards Helen is understandable, because all he has to go on is her conduct in the past, which was very un-Helenish. I live in hope.
Helen has a new boyfriend now, who is loving and respectful and to whom she is attracted and with whom sex is fun and respectful and silly and not painful or uncomfortable or awkward. He's coming to visit and I hope that when Greg sees Helen be a happy Helen, he'll understand and try to be her friend.
Hel and I shared hilarious sex anecdotes. In one of her first sexual encounters with her new boyfriend, they left the curtains and the window wide open. His flatmate, during a cigarette break, got an eye-full of a topless Helen astride his friend. Glorious. What larks!
Greg and I are doing great. We're taking a trip together soon, and we're planning together and being excited. We remain communicative and he's opening up about sexual stuff he enjoys or would like to try. It's a lot of fun. For example he has expressed (in a way that seemed more like a guilty confession) that he enjoyed some acts and positions than he has previously let on. This, and other things we have both suggested, are becoming a more frequent topic of conversation. I don't know if he's more comfortable with himself, or more comfortable with me, but either way it's progress. I feel like we're on more of an even footing, because I have always been of the mind that "If you don't ask, you don't get!" when it comes to sex, but apparently that is a new idea to him.
I've taken up running as a way to try and get back in shape. I'm also eating (slightly) better. Couch to 5k programs have worked for me before, in conjunction with other workouts. So, we'll see!