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Trust vs. Mistrust
trust vs mistrust is a developmental stage in your life. Basically, when you are a young child, or a baby at that matter, and your parents neglect you in anyway, or are not around enough you develope a sense of mistrust. If they are neglecting you, you are not capable of trusting them, therefor when you grow up you will have that mistrust in you, and not be able to trust people.
I find this interesting because of who I am now. It fits me...perfectly. Iv always tried gettin people to understand that a lot of who I am now, is because of my past, and childhood. In it gets very complicated to explain to ppl, or get them to understand. I mean..things honestly get to me..especialyl when it comes to trust...n any type of way. Its hard enough for me to even place trust in people...
I think mayb thats why I dont go out as much anymore either, I dont trust people enough to go through with things, or i just dont trust. I was completely neglected by my parents, and basically forgotten about a lot.
Initmacy Vs. Isolation
very interesting one. Basically it says that by the age of 18 you should be having that initmacy part of you, or relationship wise. Caring, loving, sharing, and every other thing dealin with Initmacy, when you do not get this, or not allow yourself too, you end up in the Isolation stage, you isolate your self from others, and dont let people in or just dont want them in. You feel alone, but wont do anything about it, and eventually the loneliness feeling, feels like a normal feeling, and ud never know you feel alone.
Thing is.. many things can lead up to this, and cause people to enter the stage of Isolation...
According to Freud, I believe. He says that around the ages of 15-16 is when we start to experiement with relationships, test different people out, begin dating, and having bfs n gfs. However, if you miss this stage you never get that, you never have the feeling of what its like to have someone in your life, and to start developing feelings you could have never felt before, feelings and thoughts that will eventually allow you to be mature enough to have a real relationship, in which you completely care about the person.
Basically, your this person who at that age, really wanted a girlfriend/boyfriend, you could never found one, or you were scared to, thought maybe people wouldnt like you, didnt have confidence, any reasons of those sort. Your typical "he/she wont like me" and you never end up experiencing that. All you are is sad or lonely, and eventually might get angry at that. The strenght inside of you will begin to come out, and take over. Your realzing your not happy bcz you want someone of your own, but your tired of that feeling, and eventually learn to make yourself happy without having someone...or you make yourself "believe" you can be happy with out someone.
When in actuality, according to psychologist you need love and care in order to live (not in a survivetypeaway)
by the time you are 18, your at that level of having fun, and not needing a boy.girl. and you dont seem to understand why others feel that need. By age of 18 freud says you are also normally starting to look for the "one" not that you will find it, but by than you should have a pretty good idea of what you want from your experiences, or just know by feeling its who you want, you've played the games, had the short relationships, and now your ready for something big. Well, if youve missed all the stages before, you wont make it to this stage either, instead, youll go into an isolation. Only way to get yourself out is to be avery strong willed person, and overcome specific things inside of you. Think about your problems, and overcome them. Discover whats wrong.Some, it never changes for.
I found all this interesting, bcz lately I have had a very difficult time startin relationships with guys.... I end them... almsot before they can begin. In i try and i try, ill try to push myself just to give him a chance. But the thing is.... when I was 15 er 16.. or 13 or 14 in our generations case, I was dating guys, those were the days where you say "ohh he/shes cute" and if they think ur cute to... *boom* your a couple. Samething with... gettin lil butterflies in ur tummy.. or a lil crush..eventually that lil crush turns into a boy or girl you end up goin out with, these relationships dont last long.Never had a long term relationship before. Its puppy love. You dont know what your doing. But now...finally...after all that done wasting my time, those easy to get relationships are done. In i think its why I turn things down. Right away if somethings not something I see in a long term relationship, its done. You do know kind of what you want, or have that voice inside you that knows, or even the feeling your heart gives off, youve learned toread all those. In if its just not there... hes gone. How can I start something, if it cant be started? You know someones not gonna be there for the long run...why keep them around and waste your time anymore?
So I finally figured out.. IM NOT WEIRD!!! :D
anyways- I honestly think everryyone should take a psychology class...
ha mayb i should teach one :) id wanna teach the adolences one...or child dvelopment...yup..
yeah okay..
i hope some of you understood that? In mayb even learned something?
Im constantly takin the concepts Iv learned in classes, and looking into them, and comparing or using them in real life, either for myself, and even for others sometimes. In its not bad, its made me understand a few different people alot better, and even certain types of people in general, i mean of course thats not all the stuff Iv learned! just some things i was thinkin about today.
Anways.
gonna go get somethings done...mayb? :D
trust vs mistrust is a developmental stage in your life. Basically, when you are a young child, or a baby at that matter, and your parents neglect you in anyway, or are not around enough you develope a sense of mistrust. If they are neglecting you, you are not capable of trusting them, therefor when you grow up you will have that mistrust in you, and not be able to trust people.
I find this interesting because of who I am now. It fits me...perfectly. Iv always tried gettin people to understand that a lot of who I am now, is because of my past, and childhood. In it gets very complicated to explain to ppl, or get them to understand. I mean..things honestly get to me..especialyl when it comes to trust...n any type of way. Its hard enough for me to even place trust in people...
I think mayb thats why I dont go out as much anymore either, I dont trust people enough to go through with things, or i just dont trust. I was completely neglected by my parents, and basically forgotten about a lot.
Initmacy Vs. Isolation
very interesting one. Basically it says that by the age of 18 you should be having that initmacy part of you, or relationship wise. Caring, loving, sharing, and every other thing dealin with Initmacy, when you do not get this, or not allow yourself too, you end up in the Isolation stage, you isolate your self from others, and dont let people in or just dont want them in. You feel alone, but wont do anything about it, and eventually the loneliness feeling, feels like a normal feeling, and ud never know you feel alone.
Thing is.. many things can lead up to this, and cause people to enter the stage of Isolation...
According to Freud, I believe. He says that around the ages of 15-16 is when we start to experiement with relationships, test different people out, begin dating, and having bfs n gfs. However, if you miss this stage you never get that, you never have the feeling of what its like to have someone in your life, and to start developing feelings you could have never felt before, feelings and thoughts that will eventually allow you to be mature enough to have a real relationship, in which you completely care about the person.
Basically, your this person who at that age, really wanted a girlfriend/boyfriend, you could never found one, or you were scared to, thought maybe people wouldnt like you, didnt have confidence, any reasons of those sort. Your typical "he/she wont like me" and you never end up experiencing that. All you are is sad or lonely, and eventually might get angry at that. The strenght inside of you will begin to come out, and take over. Your realzing your not happy bcz you want someone of your own, but your tired of that feeling, and eventually learn to make yourself happy without having someone...or you make yourself "believe" you can be happy with out someone.
When in actuality, according to psychologist you need love and care in order to live (not in a survivetypeaway)
by the time you are 18, your at that level of having fun, and not needing a boy.girl. and you dont seem to understand why others feel that need. By age of 18 freud says you are also normally starting to look for the "one" not that you will find it, but by than you should have a pretty good idea of what you want from your experiences, or just know by feeling its who you want, you've played the games, had the short relationships, and now your ready for something big. Well, if youve missed all the stages before, you wont make it to this stage either, instead, youll go into an isolation. Only way to get yourself out is to be avery strong willed person, and overcome specific things inside of you. Think about your problems, and overcome them. Discover whats wrong.Some, it never changes for.
I found all this interesting, bcz lately I have had a very difficult time startin relationships with guys.... I end them... almsot before they can begin. In i try and i try, ill try to push myself just to give him a chance. But the thing is.... when I was 15 er 16.. or 13 or 14 in our generations case, I was dating guys, those were the days where you say "ohh he/shes cute" and if they think ur cute to... *boom* your a couple. Samething with... gettin lil butterflies in ur tummy.. or a lil crush..eventually that lil crush turns into a boy or girl you end up goin out with, these relationships dont last long.Never had a long term relationship before. Its puppy love. You dont know what your doing. But now...finally...after all that done wasting my time, those easy to get relationships are done. In i think its why I turn things down. Right away if somethings not something I see in a long term relationship, its done. You do know kind of what you want, or have that voice inside you that knows, or even the feeling your heart gives off, youve learned toread all those. In if its just not there... hes gone. How can I start something, if it cant be started? You know someones not gonna be there for the long run...why keep them around and waste your time anymore?
So I finally figured out.. IM NOT WEIRD!!! :D
anyways- I honestly think everryyone should take a psychology class...
ha mayb i should teach one :) id wanna teach the adolences one...or child dvelopment...yup..
yeah okay..
i hope some of you understood that? In mayb even learned something?
Im constantly takin the concepts Iv learned in classes, and looking into them, and comparing or using them in real life, either for myself, and even for others sometimes. In its not bad, its made me understand a few different people alot better, and even certain types of people in general, i mean of course thats not all the stuff Iv learned! just some things i was thinkin about today.
Anways.
gonna go get somethings done...mayb? :D