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jerry springer really doesn't make up his shit.
i am living proof that these really fucked up scenarios are non-fiction.
case in point... so we all know i dated dennis. and he's an asshole.
it turns out that he's more of an asshole than i could have ever imagined.
like all men, he wants the new girl to think that his xgf is long gone and a fucking bitch. we all know it's true. however, as the new girl, i wanted to believe everything he said about the old gf, so consequently, i did. i believed that one.
untill she wanted to beat my ass at lambda chi tonite.
i was being such a good sport! god knows, i am a very confrontational person; you fuck with me, i will go out of my way to make your life a living hell. however, i felt pity for her and literally raised my hands up and said "brooke, i don't want to fight with you. i know what it's like to be the xgf and love the person that you are no longer together with. i know that it's so hard to see him with a new girl. since i know what it's like, i don't want to fight with you." i just stood there and she pounded these empty insults at me, untill finally i told her that if she wanted to talk we should go upstairs and talk. alone.
she actually turned out to be a very logical person! after an hour (literally, an hour) of comparing notes, we discovered that we were both being played by him. it was like something that you'd read in the confessional of cosmopolitan magazine; we ended our conversation with a united front and came to the conclusion that he was completely FUBAR mentally if he was capable of this.
and we had a plan.
all of a sudden, both of our friends came up to us and said he was at the party. naturally, we were like "SEND HIM UP! we'd like to work this out!" but as always, he was too much of a pussy to confront us both, he knew what was up.
so we went to him.
after finding him e went to a secluded hallway, and it was amazing. first, she was like (i am no longer using quotations b/c they are bothering me), dennis, how was new york? who did you tell lauren you went to new york with over halloween? he's like, i went with brooke. this really pissed me off since he told me he went with his MOTHER! i asked him, dennis, who did you tell me you went to new york with?! after this point, he was completely silent. me and brooke rebounded every single situation that he's lied to both of us about off of him (it took about a half of an hour).
it was a great moment for me. i have felt so ignorant and used in my entire life. after talking with brooke, this ended up being the scenario: dennis and brooke broke up, but not after he dated me for two entire months. ya, two months. he'd been seeing her and me at the same time. when he was with me, he'd lie about where he was and vice versa. when she came to his house ( i don't know if i wrote about it) and she said that they officially broke up the night before, i didn't believe her. and i should have because it ended up being the truth! the sad truth is... dennis can't be alone. not for one night.
he counted on me and brooke never to talk. ever. and we did, thank god. if we haven't we'd both probably be thinking about how sweet he is and how each other are evil jealous bitches.
so the lessons here (there are plenty, but the few that initially come to mind...),
- always... always... ALWAYS... trust your first instinct. it's usually right.
- you never really know someone as well as you think you do.
- always believe the xgf when she contacts you. even if she's a psycho bitch, GIRLS DON'T LIE. everything she told me when we didn't know each other were TRUE! EVERY SINGLE THING!
- boys lie. as cliche as it sounds, always research, always as questions, and always think critically of what the guy tells you.
i know all of these may make me out to be a bitter woman, but they're the lessons that, if i followed, would spare me a lot of heartache. i wish that i trusted my instincts and those of my girlfriends. i wish that i listened to the bitter xgf (brooke), becuase if i had i would have come out of this unscathed, as i know i've said earlier.
there are two sides to every story, i wonder what his is right now...?