all we need is one more goal
The great thing about knowing so many awesome people is that I'm simply amazed by the levels of awesomeness that surround me on a regular basis, and it gives me a lot of encouragement to be more awesome, myself.
The occasionally bad thing about knowing so many awesome people is that I frequently find myself comparing me to other people, and coming up short. I'm not nearly as good of a cook, or a gardiner, or a home-repair person, or a computer geek, or a parent, or a musician, or a volleyball player, or a social networker, or a writer, or an activist, or really, anything else as certain of my friends. In fact, for every single thing I do, I can think of someone I know (if only acquaintance-wise) who does it (imo) better.
That is, however, for each single thing. But, self, I say, I do a lot of stuff! Comparing single things is just silly. What do I do? I parent, and I maintain a house, and I have a geeky job, and I keep a garden, and I home-prep maybe 90% of my household's meals, and I do some sports, and I socialize, and I occasionally do other stuff, and I do all of it by myself. The people I envy at the volleyball courts or the climbing wall? Mostly don't have children. Or the people with awesome houses I drool over? Maybe don't have the job I do. Or the socialites eat out more often or the parents don't do the same physical hobbies. And most of them have a partner to share a lot of that with.
When I look at it that way, I can see myself in better persepective. I am, in my own little way, just as awesome as the people around me, but in different ways.
Sometimes I lament (quietly) about the things I don't do and the stuff I don't have, and it's good to remind myself that everything I have and do is what I've chosen. If I really wanted to improve a skillset, or become something better, or accomplish bigger things, I think that the primary things stopping me is, well, me. What it takes for me to get something is really and fully wanting it mindfully, not just "oh, I wish," but "yes, I want this specific realistic thing in my life enough to do all the tremendous amount of hard physical and mental work that is required for it, which includes this, and accept all the downfalls that come with it, which may be these." And then patience.
When I look at things like that, it's almost scary. What do I really want? Exactly how much do I want it? As happy as I am now, what can I do to improve on it?
Yesterday had the most daylight of the year. Perhaps now is a good time to be looking for more of a bigger picture in my life.
The occasionally bad thing about knowing so many awesome people is that I frequently find myself comparing me to other people, and coming up short. I'm not nearly as good of a cook, or a gardiner, or a home-repair person, or a computer geek, or a parent, or a musician, or a volleyball player, or a social networker, or a writer, or an activist, or really, anything else as certain of my friends. In fact, for every single thing I do, I can think of someone I know (if only acquaintance-wise) who does it (imo) better.
That is, however, for each single thing. But, self, I say, I do a lot of stuff! Comparing single things is just silly. What do I do? I parent, and I maintain a house, and I have a geeky job, and I keep a garden, and I home-prep maybe 90% of my household's meals, and I do some sports, and I socialize, and I occasionally do other stuff, and I do all of it by myself. The people I envy at the volleyball courts or the climbing wall? Mostly don't have children. Or the people with awesome houses I drool over? Maybe don't have the job I do. Or the socialites eat out more often or the parents don't do the same physical hobbies. And most of them have a partner to share a lot of that with.
When I look at it that way, I can see myself in better persepective. I am, in my own little way, just as awesome as the people around me, but in different ways.
Sometimes I lament (quietly) about the things I don't do and the stuff I don't have, and it's good to remind myself that everything I have and do is what I've chosen. If I really wanted to improve a skillset, or become something better, or accomplish bigger things, I think that the primary things stopping me is, well, me. What it takes for me to get something is really and fully wanting it mindfully, not just "oh, I wish," but "yes, I want this specific realistic thing in my life enough to do all the tremendous amount of hard physical and mental work that is required for it, which includes this, and accept all the downfalls that come with it, which may be these." And then patience.
When I look at things like that, it's almost scary. What do I really want? Exactly how much do I want it? As happy as I am now, what can I do to improve on it?
Yesterday had the most daylight of the year. Perhaps now is a good time to be looking for more of a bigger picture in my life.