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last night it occurred to me that a person whom i regard as a particularly excellent, close friend of mine, whom i drop things for if they need help, and try to be there as much as i can-
only left me a message online (not even an email) and a short text message after my mum passed. no phone call, no card, no note.
what does this mean?
if i think about it, i get a bit mad.
another friend of mine, an OLD friend from long ago, whom i haven't spoken to, or messaged or called in a very very long time, sent me a deep email and a book that changed his life and he hopes it'll change mine.
i'm confused.
i know some ppl handle death differently - some people whom you hardly know pick up the slack and whirl into your life and take charge and make sure you're fed and watered and have shopping opportunities and pony rides. some people write wonderful letters and cards to let you know you're loved. that you're mother was loved.
some people call you out of the deep blue beyond to tell you stories about your mother and how wonderful and kind and generous she was. some people tell you how alike you are and how much you look like her.
and some ppl back into holes, never to emerge as friends again. or at the very least, don't take time out from their important daily lives...
maybe i should have been more specific and expressed a need for condolences... but should you have to do that when your parent passes away? i don't know.
death itself is confusing. the ritual surrounding it, even moreso.
only left me a message online (not even an email) and a short text message after my mum passed. no phone call, no card, no note.
what does this mean?
if i think about it, i get a bit mad.
another friend of mine, an OLD friend from long ago, whom i haven't spoken to, or messaged or called in a very very long time, sent me a deep email and a book that changed his life and he hopes it'll change mine.
i'm confused.
i know some ppl handle death differently - some people whom you hardly know pick up the slack and whirl into your life and take charge and make sure you're fed and watered and have shopping opportunities and pony rides. some people write wonderful letters and cards to let you know you're loved. that you're mother was loved.
some people call you out of the deep blue beyond to tell you stories about your mother and how wonderful and kind and generous she was. some people tell you how alike you are and how much you look like her.
and some ppl back into holes, never to emerge as friends again. or at the very least, don't take time out from their important daily lives...
maybe i should have been more specific and expressed a need for condolences... but should you have to do that when your parent passes away? i don't know.
death itself is confusing. the ritual surrounding it, even moreso.