Would someone please shoot the drama llama before it's too late?
I am so tried of my family's dynamic that I want to scream. I have tried to change it and have succeeded up to a point, but only up to a point.
Long story short, once again my sister called trying to either get me to say I unquestioningly support a decision that isn't very well thought out or to pick a fight. I could not do the former, so she picked a fight about her decision despite my best efforts to avert it by remaining neutral, then called my folks crying and complainign about me so now, yet again, they are pissed at me.
I called them about a completely separate issue - with a date for a family vacation we had been planning - and got growled at by my Father who would only let me speak to my mother if I did not speak of the issue with my sister. Mom then opened with the issue with my sister and could not be steered off of the topic, and had a lot of blame for me over the whole thing. No matter what I say, they seem to think I called her and picked a fight not the other way around. Eventually, unable to change the subject from that I had pomised not to speak of, I told my mother I was sorry I had called, wished her a good day and hung up the phone...something I doubt I will ever be forgiven for...
...my rudeness in hanging up aside (still trying to figure out how to fix that one) I just don't know how to fix this. My sister can say what ever she wants when she wants to stir up drama and it will always be my fault for not getting along enough. My feelings are never as important as keeping my sister from throwing a temper tantrum and I am tired of it.
Edit: Mom called me to apologize! And of course I apologized for hanging up on her...and we talked it all out and she understands. Maybe the dynamic has changed more than I realized. This is a nice development and I am more pleased than I can say!
Long story short, once again my sister called trying to either get me to say I unquestioningly support a decision that isn't very well thought out or to pick a fight. I could not do the former, so she picked a fight about her decision despite my best efforts to avert it by remaining neutral, then called my folks crying and complainign about me so now, yet again, they are pissed at me.
I called them about a completely separate issue - with a date for a family vacation we had been planning - and got growled at by my Father who would only let me speak to my mother if I did not speak of the issue with my sister. Mom then opened with the issue with my sister and could not be steered off of the topic, and had a lot of blame for me over the whole thing. No matter what I say, they seem to think I called her and picked a fight not the other way around. Eventually, unable to change the subject from that I had pomised not to speak of, I told my mother I was sorry I had called, wished her a good day and hung up the phone...something I doubt I will ever be forgiven for...
...my rudeness in hanging up aside (still trying to figure out how to fix that one) I just don't know how to fix this. My sister can say what ever she wants when she wants to stir up drama and it will always be my fault for not getting along enough. My feelings are never as important as keeping my sister from throwing a temper tantrum and I am tired of it.
Edit: Mom called me to apologize! And of course I apologized for hanging up on her...and we talked it all out and she understands. Maybe the dynamic has changed more than I realized. This is a nice development and I am more pleased than I can say!