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The more you try to find perfection in people, the more lonely you will find yourself.
How does a person go about accepting someone completely, including all of their flaws, strengths, triumphs, and failures... without trying to change them? Can you nudge them gently? How do you learn to get past the inevitable friction? Is there a point in ( Read more... )
How does a person go about accepting someone completely, including all of their flaws, strengths, triumphs, and failures... without trying to change them? Can you nudge them gently? How do you learn to get past the inevitable friction? Is there a point in ( Read more... )
Established, which is why I wrote what I wrote.
Expecting people to change is unrealistic. Any changes are bound to be superficial and temporary. Even if someone by great effort and love changes something that absolutely bugs you, she will still be imperfect in other ways. Live with it. If you can't, live without her. And without anyone else because we all are imperfect.
I have come to understand that it is very unrealistic (but not entirely impossible). Trying to change a person/people was never an issue.
Communication is a skill. Skills are acquired and improved by practice. Some people are better than others at communication. You communicate differently with your parents than with your girlfriend. You have different roles in relation to different people, so you say things differently and talk about different subjects and ideas. This is normal and appropriate.
There are things that inhibit good, effective, mutual, communication, and things that inhibit being yourself. Some of which are not normal and appropriate. That was my gist.
I fail to see a lot of relevancy to my entry in your response, but good points, nonetheless. Thanks for the input.
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