Behind the scenes
So the thing I've been very vague about that has been upsetting me in the last 3 weeks is this:
The day before the Voltaire show my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer.
I had gone to the doctor with her that Monday for her biopsy and she got the news that Thursday. Ryan knocked off work early and we picked her up for dinner to discuss it. In talking with her she wanted to tell my brother and sister-in-law after the wedding so that a dark cloud wouldn't hang over the festivities. My mom and brother are very close and she didn't want his big day to be about sadness surrounding her. That is also the reason i didn't post it earlier. I know a lot of you are on his f-list and I also know you love me, and if for some reason you posted something about it, it may have gotten to him and I would have felt heartbroken if I ruined his wedding day by giving him bad news through the internet.
So that's that.
She decided to opt for the full mastectomy even though she could get away with a partial or lumpectomy. She's had 4 previous non-cancerous removal surgeries in the last 3 years and doesn't want to deal with it anymore. Even before that decision they told her it's the most common type, invasive ductal carcinoma, and that there is only about a 0-5% chance of coming back after treatment. This is great news since it's the most treatable kind. We're all very pleased with the prognosis. So, with the full mastectomy, she won't need radiation so recovery should only be as slow at plastic surgery. That is way better for her since she gets stir crazy very easily.
I guess that's it. To those of you I told in person, thank you for your concern. You really helped me get through that week during the show and the week leading up to NY. I was pretty close to a nervous breakdown.
I love you guys.
The day before the Voltaire show my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer.
I had gone to the doctor with her that Monday for her biopsy and she got the news that Thursday. Ryan knocked off work early and we picked her up for dinner to discuss it. In talking with her she wanted to tell my brother and sister-in-law after the wedding so that a dark cloud wouldn't hang over the festivities. My mom and brother are very close and she didn't want his big day to be about sadness surrounding her. That is also the reason i didn't post it earlier. I know a lot of you are on his f-list and I also know you love me, and if for some reason you posted something about it, it may have gotten to him and I would have felt heartbroken if I ruined his wedding day by giving him bad news through the internet.
So that's that.
She decided to opt for the full mastectomy even though she could get away with a partial or lumpectomy. She's had 4 previous non-cancerous removal surgeries in the last 3 years and doesn't want to deal with it anymore. Even before that decision they told her it's the most common type, invasive ductal carcinoma, and that there is only about a 0-5% chance of coming back after treatment. This is great news since it's the most treatable kind. We're all very pleased with the prognosis. So, with the full mastectomy, she won't need radiation so recovery should only be as slow at plastic surgery. That is way better for her since she gets stir crazy very easily.
I guess that's it. To those of you I told in person, thank you for your concern. You really helped me get through that week during the show and the week leading up to NY. I was pretty close to a nervous breakdown.
I love you guys.