How I spent my birthday Part I
Well this post is more about the day after.
First a little back story. Last summer I went out with a girl named Erin. It was a full-on relationship with the L-bombs, physical whatnots and such, except that she had a boyfriend all but a few days of it (the same one, who she'd been with already once we had started seeing each other. So pretty much the whole summer I kept hearing about how she was going to dump him, but she was afraid that if she did it to be with me then he would not be friends with her afterwords.
So toward the end of the summer it petered out somewhat(right about the time of the blackout), and things looked like they were going to have to go one way or the other. Then BADOW!, her boyfriend gets all snoopy and goes back and reads the emails that had been sent between me and her. So now he knew there was something still going on (he had known about a bit happening before), and she got the ultimatum. She told me she had to talk things over with him and that it was probably going to end with the two of them. Nope.
So about a week later I saw her for the last time, and we hung out at a party. She got to drinking to the point of vomiting, but before doing so told me she was going to break up with him (I said "Don't say that," cos her word wasn't worth much by this point) and she also tried to kiss me, which I rejected.
I ran into her once after that and we walked around for about a half an hour till we had to go to separate things, and it was nice but definitely depressing. We talked via email intermittently for the next months till I got an intensely cold email saying how she was going to return everything I'd given her, not ever respond to any attempt to get in touch, and make her relationship work. That hurt, but not as much as the first month or so did (for instance, as soon as she gave me the news I threw out all but a few pills I had because I was afraid I might just take them all at once).
So why waste my time on her? Would I really want to get back together with her. No, don't think so, but she has many monumentally huge strong points and it would be really nice to remain friends, but.....
When the break-up occurred, an agreement, apparently, was made between her and him, where she was no longer allowed to correspond with me in any way. He also wanted to be there in person when she broke things off with me, but she convinced him not to take any part in it.
I think this whole thing is ridiculous, so I warned her with a few days advance that I would send a message to him, and then a few days later I sent him the following message (I found him on Friendster; it was easy cos he's Friendster's with her). Oh, and I don't really expect a response; I just thought that if I really cared enough that it would be worth my best effort.
I'm Rob.
I saw Erin in some form or another last summer.
Apparently an agreement was made between you and
her that she could not have any kind of communication
with me.
I've never really been a fan of this arrangement, and I
think it should end.
If, in actuality, she wishes not to have any
communication with me, I'd like to have it said to my face,
because I don't trust something that heavy being dealt
with in as impersonal a form as email, phone, etc.
And for the record, I'm not interested in trying to have
some kind of romantic relationship with Erin or anything;
I'd just like to, at the very least, be in touch with her.
She's cool, as you've likely gathered.
If you'd like to discuss this at all, you can send me a
message over friendster and possibly after that, speak on
the phone or meet up in person.
I hope all is well with you and I look forward to yours or
her response.
-Rob
First a little back story. Last summer I went out with a girl named Erin. It was a full-on relationship with the L-bombs, physical whatnots and such, except that she had a boyfriend all but a few days of it (the same one, who she'd been with already once we had started seeing each other. So pretty much the whole summer I kept hearing about how she was going to dump him, but she was afraid that if she did it to be with me then he would not be friends with her afterwords.
So toward the end of the summer it petered out somewhat(right about the time of the blackout), and things looked like they were going to have to go one way or the other. Then BADOW!, her boyfriend gets all snoopy and goes back and reads the emails that had been sent between me and her. So now he knew there was something still going on (he had known about a bit happening before), and she got the ultimatum. She told me she had to talk things over with him and that it was probably going to end with the two of them. Nope.
So about a week later I saw her for the last time, and we hung out at a party. She got to drinking to the point of vomiting, but before doing so told me she was going to break up with him (I said "Don't say that," cos her word wasn't worth much by this point) and she also tried to kiss me, which I rejected.
I ran into her once after that and we walked around for about a half an hour till we had to go to separate things, and it was nice but definitely depressing. We talked via email intermittently for the next months till I got an intensely cold email saying how she was going to return everything I'd given her, not ever respond to any attempt to get in touch, and make her relationship work. That hurt, but not as much as the first month or so did (for instance, as soon as she gave me the news I threw out all but a few pills I had because I was afraid I might just take them all at once).
So why waste my time on her? Would I really want to get back together with her. No, don't think so, but she has many monumentally huge strong points and it would be really nice to remain friends, but.....
When the break-up occurred, an agreement, apparently, was made between her and him, where she was no longer allowed to correspond with me in any way. He also wanted to be there in person when she broke things off with me, but she convinced him not to take any part in it.
I think this whole thing is ridiculous, so I warned her with a few days advance that I would send a message to him, and then a few days later I sent him the following message (I found him on Friendster; it was easy cos he's Friendster's with her). Oh, and I don't really expect a response; I just thought that if I really cared enough that it would be worth my best effort.
I'm Rob.
I saw Erin in some form or another last summer.
Apparently an agreement was made between you and
her that she could not have any kind of communication
with me.
I've never really been a fan of this arrangement, and I
think it should end.
If, in actuality, she wishes not to have any
communication with me, I'd like to have it said to my face,
because I don't trust something that heavy being dealt
with in as impersonal a form as email, phone, etc.
And for the record, I'm not interested in trying to have
some kind of romantic relationship with Erin or anything;
I'd just like to, at the very least, be in touch with her.
She's cool, as you've likely gathered.
If you'd like to discuss this at all, you can send me a
message over friendster and possibly after that, speak on
the phone or meet up in person.
I hope all is well with you and I look forward to yours or
her response.
-Rob