heartbreak again
Some things are common knowledge, like the fact that I'm a commitment-phobe. Turns out I'm also just a cold-hearted bitch. Some of you have already known that as well. But now it's official. So what do I do? Stop dating? Warn men? Hahaha. Some of you know I've tried that too
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I don't think you do anything wrong. I think if you make clear from the get what you're up to you can't go wrong. The only thing I noticed from US.. and I only say US because it's the only frame of reference I have towards your relationships.. is that you SAY I'm only in this for the yada yadas (sex, drugs, rock n roll, because you're a priest,...whatever...) Then you DO stuff that makes one THINK. Keep your boys from thinking. As soon as some shit goes down say bye. I was the other man a few times and every time when she said some shit about a relationship or emotional feelings I pointed at the door. THAT was satisfying.
That being said. Girls say some shit even when their intentions are known. Girls say some warm and fuzzy shit that'll make a boy's head spin. It's not cruelty. It's 'cause you're a girl.
Now, something you posted earlier caused a question in me.. You said you felt that your boys are developing feelings for other girls or something to that effect.. Anyway, the day you can find a boy who can get laid as easily as you without first establishing some sort of relationship will be the day your boys will stop developing feelings for other girls. Keep in mind.. not all girls are like you.. Some you have to actually schmooze a little to get em naked ;)
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I appreciate the things you say here. Seeing it from that perspective is nice to know. . .I do however, have to take the responsibility that I keep pursuing men even though there are red flags.
With you, we knew we never should have gotten involved, and we did anyway. I accept responsiblity for that. Though I'm grateful for the two-ish years because I think we both got a lot out of it :)
I also want to clarify the difference between what I say and what I do. Even though I say, "I'm not in a committed relationship with you," that doesn't mean, "I refuse to have feelings for you." The things I'm doing, like being affectionate, saying I care about you, etc. . .those are all true things, even though I won't commit to you. . .
Does that make sense?
Same with this recent breakup. He and I had an incredibly honest, tender, communicative relationship, even though we were very much in an open relationship. The red flags in the beginning just finally caught up with me. Nothing to do with the open part. . .
Oh, and as for your final comment. . . believe it or not. . in MY world. . most of the girls are pursuers. It's not unheard of, or even out of the ordinary, for a girl to say, "I'd like to sleep with you if you're interested." It happens all the time. That's just my jealous nature, where I want the guy to be with me emotionally, ya know? Sleep with whomever you want, but I like to feel that the person I choose is my partner, first and foremost, as I am to them. . .
Man this was long. sorry.
xo
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