Game On, Jerk
I'm always terrible at putting stories into an easy to follow format. So, I thin that I'll use the SBAR(Situation Background Assessment Recommendation) format.
Situation
There's this jerk who thinks that they're going to pretend that I don't exist, even though we can't avoid eachother. This person seems to ask others if I've arrived; present; or on time. If I've messed anything up, they hone in on the mistake and make sure to grieve me for it through social libel or directly; They have a very honed talent for causing chaos for me too; they cast doubt on any of my efforts; lastly, if I'm in an emergency situation, it's like their favorite times to let me know that I'm on my own unless they absolutely have to help me out of the emergency. Their normal habits that I can't stand are also exaggerated like they will have a second serving of food against their diet, because I have auditory sensitivities that they love to annoy.
Background
Like I said, I have audio sensitivities and visual sensitivities. I'm easily distracted from my own work and certain sounds and signs of anxiety tick my sensitivities. I have been able to grow some resistances to those things, but I've always been this way and I don't think that the ticks will ever go away completely. There are a few people who are keenly aware of my ticks because of past times that I've said something or asked them to stop if it was an exaggerated situation that they were unaware of. This is only part of my problems with a certain person, but still I couldn't be more different from them even if we look similar. The breaking point came two years ago I guess. Two or more years ago, this person asked me how to spell the name of a city, in our state, to write into a business quote. I couldn't really visualize the last time that I had spelled the name, so I sounded it out in my head and gave the person my best guess. They asked if I was sure and I said that I was absolutely sure, then I corrected myself and said that I was "like 99.9% sure" of the city's name's spelling. They didn't trust me, so they decided to look it up on their laptop. It turned out that I was wrong. That seems to be the moment they decided that I was no longer trust-worthy ever again. But, I don't know for sure what their deal is because they won't tell me about why they have a grudge against me even though I've asked them before. So I guess that their motives are speculation, but the mistrust and attacks on me are observable. They tell others of how I had gotten pulled over by a neighborhood police officer whenever the opportunity presents itself.
Assessment
Because of all the times that others were willing to go out of their way to help me out of emergencies, despite more of a burden on themselves than this certain person. Because of all the social attacks; because of the mistrust; because of all the veiled attacks; because of the persistence; because of communication being diverted through others instead of direct; because they like to control where I am; I believe that this person has a caustic grudge against me and possible sociopathic bias against me. Where they act completely different from themselves from three years ago, I believe that they have set up a new lifestyle for themselves, like a set of rules for conduct around myself and others.
Recommendation
Like I've said, I've asked about it in the past and this person doesn't seem willing to let go of past grievances and resolve our past conflicts. So, I have some recommendations for myself that I will follow, as often as I can remember:
1. I resolve to not be alone with this person
2. I resolve to lose communication with this person when I am able
3. I resolve to grow my relationships with those who actually help me
4. I resolve to pray for this person
5. I resolve to regard this person as fallen from their Christian faith
6. I resolve to keep this person outside my social circle so that I'm not in so much contact with them.
7. I resolve to improve on myself to one day forgive this person
8. I resolve to wear sensory dampners around this person
9. I resolve to wear reuseable earplugs around this person
10.I resolve to wear sunglasses or some vision protection around this person
I'm grieved that this is my life with this person now. I know that I've always had a roller-coaster relationship with this person, but I can't allow myself to be on this downward spiral because of their new grudge anymore. If this is the game of life, game on Dad.
Situation
There's this jerk who thinks that they're going to pretend that I don't exist, even though we can't avoid eachother. This person seems to ask others if I've arrived; present; or on time. If I've messed anything up, they hone in on the mistake and make sure to grieve me for it through social libel or directly; They have a very honed talent for causing chaos for me too; they cast doubt on any of my efforts; lastly, if I'm in an emergency situation, it's like their favorite times to let me know that I'm on my own unless they absolutely have to help me out of the emergency. Their normal habits that I can't stand are also exaggerated like they will have a second serving of food against their diet, because I have auditory sensitivities that they love to annoy.
Background
Like I said, I have audio sensitivities and visual sensitivities. I'm easily distracted from my own work and certain sounds and signs of anxiety tick my sensitivities. I have been able to grow some resistances to those things, but I've always been this way and I don't think that the ticks will ever go away completely. There are a few people who are keenly aware of my ticks because of past times that I've said something or asked them to stop if it was an exaggerated situation that they were unaware of. This is only part of my problems with a certain person, but still I couldn't be more different from them even if we look similar. The breaking point came two years ago I guess. Two or more years ago, this person asked me how to spell the name of a city, in our state, to write into a business quote. I couldn't really visualize the last time that I had spelled the name, so I sounded it out in my head and gave the person my best guess. They asked if I was sure and I said that I was absolutely sure, then I corrected myself and said that I was "like 99.9% sure" of the city's name's spelling. They didn't trust me, so they decided to look it up on their laptop. It turned out that I was wrong. That seems to be the moment they decided that I was no longer trust-worthy ever again. But, I don't know for sure what their deal is because they won't tell me about why they have a grudge against me even though I've asked them before. So I guess that their motives are speculation, but the mistrust and attacks on me are observable. They tell others of how I had gotten pulled over by a neighborhood police officer whenever the opportunity presents itself.
Assessment
Because of all the times that others were willing to go out of their way to help me out of emergencies, despite more of a burden on themselves than this certain person. Because of all the social attacks; because of the mistrust; because of all the veiled attacks; because of the persistence; because of communication being diverted through others instead of direct; because they like to control where I am; I believe that this person has a caustic grudge against me and possible sociopathic bias against me. Where they act completely different from themselves from three years ago, I believe that they have set up a new lifestyle for themselves, like a set of rules for conduct around myself and others.
Recommendation
Like I've said, I've asked about it in the past and this person doesn't seem willing to let go of past grievances and resolve our past conflicts. So, I have some recommendations for myself that I will follow, as often as I can remember:
1. I resolve to not be alone with this person
2. I resolve to lose communication with this person when I am able
3. I resolve to grow my relationships with those who actually help me
4. I resolve to pray for this person
5. I resolve to regard this person as fallen from their Christian faith
6. I resolve to keep this person outside my social circle so that I'm not in so much contact with them.
7. I resolve to improve on myself to one day forgive this person
8. I resolve to wear sensory dampners around this person
9. I resolve to wear reuseable earplugs around this person
10.I resolve to wear sunglasses or some vision protection around this person
I'm grieved that this is my life with this person now. I know that I've always had a roller-coaster relationship with this person, but I can't allow myself to be on this downward spiral because of their new grudge anymore. If this is the game of life, game on Dad.