mixed signals? venting here
this was extracted from an article about how you may see yourself very differently from how others see you:
"So if you feel misunderstood, say and do more. Even introverts can train themselves to communicate more through their words-telling people directly what they like and how they feel. But before you can work on making sure you're sending the right signals, you'll need to know how others are perceiving you."
(full article here)
...which is really a giant mental/social trap for a lot of folks out there. many people (in fact, many in my own immediate social network here in sm) are not only completely unaware of how they're perceived, but they BITCH about being misunderstood (or NOT understood at all) AND they absolutely cannot bear to face the truth about themselves. the result is perpetual (and absurd) bitchery about how socially awkward things get, plus demonizing others who don't share their perception of themselves. feedback is then taken as criticism, and the claim of being "straight-forward" and "honest" is thus disproved. LIBERATE THYSELVES, PEOPLE! peel away all of those layers of denial! KNOW THYSELF!
maybe this is really more of a complaint about my style of confrontation, as i've been all too eager to point things out to people they're not ready to hear. from my perspective, i'm just the messanger here, externalizing the internal message, or pretty much just...POINTING OUT THE OBVIOUS, which is often the blind-spot for people. it's weird to feel like you're being disliked for threatening people's self-perception (just stop lying to yourself already!)
ps: i just received a text message from a 714 number: "Those are hilarious pictures! Whats awesome is that my friend that did it too has a pic of the two blue naked dudes too!"
what the awesome?
"So if you feel misunderstood, say and do more. Even introverts can train themselves to communicate more through their words-telling people directly what they like and how they feel. But before you can work on making sure you're sending the right signals, you'll need to know how others are perceiving you."
(full article here)
...which is really a giant mental/social trap for a lot of folks out there. many people (in fact, many in my own immediate social network here in sm) are not only completely unaware of how they're perceived, but they BITCH about being misunderstood (or NOT understood at all) AND they absolutely cannot bear to face the truth about themselves. the result is perpetual (and absurd) bitchery about how socially awkward things get, plus demonizing others who don't share their perception of themselves. feedback is then taken as criticism, and the claim of being "straight-forward" and "honest" is thus disproved. LIBERATE THYSELVES, PEOPLE! peel away all of those layers of denial! KNOW THYSELF!
maybe this is really more of a complaint about my style of confrontation, as i've been all too eager to point things out to people they're not ready to hear. from my perspective, i'm just the messanger here, externalizing the internal message, or pretty much just...POINTING OUT THE OBVIOUS, which is often the blind-spot for people. it's weird to feel like you're being disliked for threatening people's self-perception (just stop lying to yourself already!)
ps: i just received a text message from a 714 number: "Those are hilarious pictures! Whats awesome is that my friend that did it too has a pic of the two blue naked dudes too!"
what the awesome?