I feel very sad for you that you didn't have effective support during your difficult pregnancy and labor. I'm so sorry that it became so traumatic. You really did fight for your son in many ways and should be so proud of yourself. I think you showed a lot of strength in this story.
Wow, you're the first person to say that to me! Pretty much everyone I've spoken to seems to think I'm some kind of hell bitch for wanting a c section and not wanting to have salad servers shoved into my cut open vagina. I always associate my birth story with weakness, so I'm really glad it comes across in as strength in some ways :-)
I think we make the best decisions we can with the information we have at the time, you know? A forceps delivery could have been very rough on both you and the baby and I don't blame you for fearing that (not that c-sections aren't rough). You went as long as you could in labor until your health care providers basically told you that you couldn't anymore, and all of that labor was beneficial for your baby.
I also think it takes a real badass mama to pump for months when breastfeeding gets off to such a rocky start, and it's impressive, especially at the age you were at the time.
No, I think she is right, this is totally spot on. You did a lot given what you knew and that you had no help.
Btw, I was given a similar choice (though my doc added some shoulder breaking horror to the story) and I chose the section I didn't need as well. Given my options at the time, it was all I could do, same as you. *HUGS*
If I'd had the option to choose a c-section, I wouldn't have done it, but that would have been an error - if my first birth had been a c-section I might have been able to have natural subsequent deliveries, use tampons, or be continent.
I think any labouring woman who finds herself able to make any kind of decision shows more strength than I had first time around. Well done.
(I can't read the post, but I can read the comments; my own ishoos are getting to me here).
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Wow, you're the first person to say that to me! Pretty much everyone I've spoken to seems to think I'm some kind of hell bitch for wanting a c section and not wanting to have salad servers shoved into my cut open vagina. I always associate my birth story with weakness, so I'm really glad it comes across in as strength in some ways :-)
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I also think it takes a real badass mama to pump for months when breastfeeding gets off to such a rocky start, and it's impressive, especially at the age you were at the time.
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Btw, I was given a similar choice (though my doc added some shoulder breaking horror to the story) and I chose the section I didn't need as well. Given my options at the time, it was all I could do, same as you. *HUGS*
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I think any labouring woman who finds herself able to make any kind of decision shows more strength than I had first time around. Well done.
(I can't read the post, but I can read the comments; my own ishoos are getting to me here).
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