weight gain making me look more "girly"

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Hi birls

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[exsisto]

I think you look cute either way, and we can't all be super thin forever :3
Metabolism was bound to kick in sooner or later.

If you want a more masculine look I'd look into working out, because the fat in your boobs tend to be the first thing you loose.
It's much healthier to be toned than it would be to be not eating enough.

And your body is going to be constantly changing as you grow older, so it's not healthy to get too attached to how you used to look.

Try to think of yourself as still being sexy, you still look really thin/androgynous from what I can tell.

[theartdyke]

You are indeed hot either way, but I definitely identify. I also highly suggest weight training. If you work hard enough at it (high weight, low # of reps) you can build enough muscle to give yourself a more masculine frame (you in particular - it's really hard for women to put on muscle size but you seem to have a naturally skinny frame like me so I think it would show well). Building muscle also raises your basal metabolic rate, which means you burn more calories just sitting on your ass. Hooray! And when you are weight training you NEED to eat more, so your appetite shouldn't be an issue. Balance it out with some cardio work and you should see a huge difference in a month or two. The best part is if you "fall off the wagon" and get out of the habit of working out, it's really easy to get back to where you were before. Your muscles are still there, they just need to be toned again, which is much easier than building them in the first place

[amhrantine]

Hey I'm on the bandwagon for a change. Am genderqueer too, and I had a bit of this myself recently - I was under 45kg, then got put on medication and gained 12kg because of that. Suddenly I have this hourglass figure, D cup breasts, etc. Even my face filled out and looked more "feminine." Generally, I aesthetically like bigger women, and the women I've been attracted to have been curvy, but on me I feel exactly the same as you do - it't not that I dislike curvyness or women, just that I'm neither.
What I'm doing is upping my cardio workout (running, sprints, boxing, rope-skipping, etc) to drop some of the weight that I put on on medication, and increasing my strength workout (freeweights, boxing, body resistence, etc) to muscle up and give me back more of an androgynous form. I wasn't real fond of being skinny, just as I'm not real fond of a little excess fat - I reckon the ideal would be to be hardarse and muscular ;-)

[rhymeswithmulva]

If you are having a hard time feeling full, perhaps you are not getting enough protein and should eat more protein. Does the not smoking give you food cravings? If you eat a good meal every 3-4 hours, it helps keep your blood sugar levels even so you are less likely to get food cravings.

[jitusk]

Chorusing the sentiment that you are still attractive and androgynous, but I definitely understand the sentiment of not being pleased with looking more feminine. As stated already, working out is a good idea and gives nice results, I think. I actually should be doing it more intensely and frequently, but I'm kind of lazy and it's hard to feel like it's paying off.

You seem to have some lovely shoulders, too. Rather broad/straight.

Good luck and I hope you feel better about your body soon.