yep, I'm thru!
So I did another online dating thing and it's not working (again)
the only difference is that this time I paid for it. Not a whole lot but enough for folks to know I'm serious. This time I made a list, something I never do. It wasn't a bad list IMO. Plus I threw in some heavy sarcasm. Only a few understood the jokes. One man got very offended cuz he was nowhere near my criteria (age range is a big must for me, which was between 25-34. I can't relate to anyone over 34 all that well. Under 25 I can but in all honesty I'd like to have a drink with someone in public who won't get carded and me thrown in jail for "corruption of a minor")
But everyone is not reading (as I suspected) they are looking at the pictures and throwing random numbers/words/flirts at me.
I also stated I'm not moving out of state for love. A few guys were mad about that. I'm sorry but that's a perfect way to be set up to become someone's prostitute in a foreign country or dead, esp. if you don't know anybody in said country.
But I'd rather take chances and risks in my own state. Maybe I'm just crazy or not dedicated to love enough to go that far out of a limb. I have standards.
A crush on someone that I've buried has resurfaced. I can't tell him, esp. if we start hanging out. Kinda mad I have one because it is an industry person. But he seems to be kinda digging me too. Even from jump but I won't read too much into it as girls tend to do. I want to be bashed over the head with it cuz I'll be so oblivious.
But back to this online dating thing. It's a month subscription. idk what else to ask this online potential. I guess he wants me to pull his teeth and do all the question asking and voluntarily give information, first being my phone number. I should just cut ties cuz he's not being assertive (which was one of my criteria in addition to the age range) Am I asking too much if I ask for a man who has career goals, loves his fam, doesn't have a criminal record, at least a bachelors degree, does not have a ton of children and has never been married, who is currently not married/separated, who's over 5'7" and not over 280 (unless muscular), who doesn't do drugs? I only want someone who's my equal or more. The way it used to be. I'm the same so why is that asking too much? For someone who wants a serious relationship who isn't on the site for casual sex.
Why is it so hard to ask for on this exclusive race website? It's out there.
I guess because I'm asking for that in MI. It's out there alright, out of state that is :-(
The first day, when I didn't realize my settings was for "any state", I got quite a few replies from great guys but they were all out of state. The guys looked good too (don't mean to come off as superficial but yeah, they were easy on the eyes) but they were out of state. Woo woo :-(
So then I limited my search to within the state.
Majority in state who reply are over 40, divorced or "no comment" or 'legally separated', several kids, drink and smoke and want to "kick it". Who refused to state their income, their degree level and their occupation. And look like they are not a year younger than 72 because of their health habits. What they all look for in a woman: someone who is 'drama free' and for a casual relationship (translation: a fuck buddy who doesn't mind being the fuck buddy. whose only job is to be the fuck buddy and nothing more). The men out of state were more specific in what they sought in a woman and who they were as men, wanted long term relationships that lead to marriage as well. I keep wondering if I should go out of state, establish myself career-wise and then find these men to see how legit they really are. So blindly here's the choice: choose between guys wearing suits and looking clean/professional who know what they want and are well spoken versus 40 something year old men who look 72, who wear jerseys, gym shoes and look blowed in all of their pics? (not to mention most of those pics are in front of the airbrushed club/cabaret backgrounds). And not to mention those whose grammar and spelling are so horrible that it makes you wonder if they are Americans or foreigners (even though a lot of foreigners can write and read better English than some Americans).
The choice seems easy if you've already established yourself in another state with people other than these potential mates. (which is similar to job searching here as well.) Do you go for the $40,000/yr. job with full benefits in another state or do you have faith and keep searching amongst temp jobs and minimum wage jobs which you already know have zero potential for growth nor enough stability to keep you remotely happy?
I'm trying to have faith in those my age range in this state and in this city. I know we have an unemployment problem as well but for some reason, with each friend that I see engaged and each new associate who invites me to her wedding in state, I still can't help but to have faith that the one who is the one is still looking. He'll find me and he will say "I've won" because he did.
But until then, I think I'm about to close yet another online dating account and pray they don't bill me for the next month. See if I can get involved with some professional social clubs.
the only difference is that this time I paid for it. Not a whole lot but enough for folks to know I'm serious. This time I made a list, something I never do. It wasn't a bad list IMO. Plus I threw in some heavy sarcasm. Only a few understood the jokes. One man got very offended cuz he was nowhere near my criteria (age range is a big must for me, which was between 25-34. I can't relate to anyone over 34 all that well. Under 25 I can but in all honesty I'd like to have a drink with someone in public who won't get carded and me thrown in jail for "corruption of a minor")
But everyone is not reading (as I suspected) they are looking at the pictures and throwing random numbers/words/flirts at me.
I also stated I'm not moving out of state for love. A few guys were mad about that. I'm sorry but that's a perfect way to be set up to become someone's prostitute in a foreign country or dead, esp. if you don't know anybody in said country.
But I'd rather take chances and risks in my own state. Maybe I'm just crazy or not dedicated to love enough to go that far out of a limb. I have standards.
A crush on someone that I've buried has resurfaced. I can't tell him, esp. if we start hanging out. Kinda mad I have one because it is an industry person. But he seems to be kinda digging me too. Even from jump but I won't read too much into it as girls tend to do. I want to be bashed over the head with it cuz I'll be so oblivious.
But back to this online dating thing. It's a month subscription. idk what else to ask this online potential. I guess he wants me to pull his teeth and do all the question asking and voluntarily give information, first being my phone number. I should just cut ties cuz he's not being assertive (which was one of my criteria in addition to the age range) Am I asking too much if I ask for a man who has career goals, loves his fam, doesn't have a criminal record, at least a bachelors degree, does not have a ton of children and has never been married, who is currently not married/separated, who's over 5'7" and not over 280 (unless muscular), who doesn't do drugs? I only want someone who's my equal or more. The way it used to be. I'm the same so why is that asking too much? For someone who wants a serious relationship who isn't on the site for casual sex.
Why is it so hard to ask for on this exclusive race website? It's out there.
I guess because I'm asking for that in MI. It's out there alright, out of state that is :-(
The first day, when I didn't realize my settings was for "any state", I got quite a few replies from great guys but they were all out of state. The guys looked good too (don't mean to come off as superficial but yeah, they were easy on the eyes) but they were out of state. Woo woo :-(
So then I limited my search to within the state.
Majority in state who reply are over 40, divorced or "no comment" or 'legally separated', several kids, drink and smoke and want to "kick it". Who refused to state their income, their degree level and their occupation. And look like they are not a year younger than 72 because of their health habits. What they all look for in a woman: someone who is 'drama free' and for a casual relationship (translation: a fuck buddy who doesn't mind being the fuck buddy. whose only job is to be the fuck buddy and nothing more). The men out of state were more specific in what they sought in a woman and who they were as men, wanted long term relationships that lead to marriage as well. I keep wondering if I should go out of state, establish myself career-wise and then find these men to see how legit they really are. So blindly here's the choice: choose between guys wearing suits and looking clean/professional who know what they want and are well spoken versus 40 something year old men who look 72, who wear jerseys, gym shoes and look blowed in all of their pics? (not to mention most of those pics are in front of the airbrushed club/cabaret backgrounds). And not to mention those whose grammar and spelling are so horrible that it makes you wonder if they are Americans or foreigners (even though a lot of foreigners can write and read better English than some Americans).
The choice seems easy if you've already established yourself in another state with people other than these potential mates. (which is similar to job searching here as well.) Do you go for the $40,000/yr. job with full benefits in another state or do you have faith and keep searching amongst temp jobs and minimum wage jobs which you already know have zero potential for growth nor enough stability to keep you remotely happy?
I'm trying to have faith in those my age range in this state and in this city. I know we have an unemployment problem as well but for some reason, with each friend that I see engaged and each new associate who invites me to her wedding in state, I still can't help but to have faith that the one who is the one is still looking. He'll find me and he will say "I've won" because he did.
But until then, I think I'm about to close yet another online dating account and pray they don't bill me for the next month. See if I can get involved with some professional social clubs.