How very odd...
In an odd twist of irony, earlier today at approximately 3 p.m. I was making ex-wife jokes to a friend. Describing how at the end the conversation went something like this:
Her: I don't like your parents.
Me: That's ok, sometimes I don't like them either.
Her: I don't want to see your parents again.
Me: (thinking time will get her over this) Ok, that can be arranged.
Her: I don't want you to see your parents again.
Me: Um... no
Her: And if we have children, I won't let them see your parents.
Me: Um... no again.
- Note, this is odd in the fact that I am generally an easy going person, and didn't say no very often in order to smooth things over.
Her: It's them or me.
Me: Laters!
Now, this is greatly paraphrased in order to get the jist across without actually going into long, drawn out arguements and such. That and I honestly don't remember much from that time period. Depression tends to do that...
Now, roughly the same period as I stated, 'In all honesty it wasn't a bad break up, I haven't even heard a word from her since about one month after I signed the papers.' She sent out a typical introductory email.
Attached below so others may comment on why I am wierded out:
Hello Drew,
I hope I have the correct e-mail address for you. If so, I hope you are not upset I contacted you. If not, please disregard the remainder of this e-mail. I came across this e-mail address through Google. I noticed a Drew Davidson was involved in a local role-playing group and thought it must be you.
My reason for contacting you is to give you a formal apology after all these years for the times I hurt you. I have often thought about doing this over the years, but thought I would be doing more harm than good. I hope this is not actually the case. I realize we did not part on the best terms and regret it had to be that way.
I have moved on and remarried (not the guy I was dating when we last spoke). I try to apply knowledge gained from my past experience in an effort to be a better wife to my spouse.
I really hope you are doing well and life is treating you kindly. I don't expect a reply from you, but am open to your response. Take care of yourself.
Kind Regards,
Leslie
Ok... now the strangest thing about this. It was from a Yahoo email addy that listed the sender as Leslie Davidson. From what I can remember, she didn't have a Yahoo email account... tho as I said I don't remember much. The combination of that plus the fact that she Goggle'd me is just odd. Note: Not only is she NOT a role player, but absolutely hated them and pretty much forbade me to play them also (another problem with the relationship)...
Now the question is, do I even bother replying? If so, what do you say? Yup, took me years to get back on my feet after all that happened... now that I finally am moving on with my life I get the joy of trying to mince words with the person who screwed it up? Hey, thanks to you I am afraid to get into a serious relationship with anyone, which in the long run likely spared me much pain so thanks! Um...
Not that I am not thrilled with the way my life is going right now. I am moving to a beautiful new state. I am going for a PhD in a subject that fascinates me. It is a nice, friendly, small town. I actually feel good about myself for the first time in ages. *shrugs* Thrown for a moderate loop currently...
Drew
Her: I don't like your parents.
Me: That's ok, sometimes I don't like them either.
Her: I don't want to see your parents again.
Me: (thinking time will get her over this) Ok, that can be arranged.
Her: I don't want you to see your parents again.
Me: Um... no
Her: And if we have children, I won't let them see your parents.
Me: Um... no again.
- Note, this is odd in the fact that I am generally an easy going person, and didn't say no very often in order to smooth things over.
Her: It's them or me.
Me: Laters!
Now, this is greatly paraphrased in order to get the jist across without actually going into long, drawn out arguements and such. That and I honestly don't remember much from that time period. Depression tends to do that...
Now, roughly the same period as I stated, 'In all honesty it wasn't a bad break up, I haven't even heard a word from her since about one month after I signed the papers.' She sent out a typical introductory email.
Attached below so others may comment on why I am wierded out:
Hello Drew,
I hope I have the correct e-mail address for you. If so, I hope you are not upset I contacted you. If not, please disregard the remainder of this e-mail. I came across this e-mail address through Google. I noticed a Drew Davidson was involved in a local role-playing group and thought it must be you.
My reason for contacting you is to give you a formal apology after all these years for the times I hurt you. I have often thought about doing this over the years, but thought I would be doing more harm than good. I hope this is not actually the case. I realize we did not part on the best terms and regret it had to be that way.
I have moved on and remarried (not the guy I was dating when we last spoke). I try to apply knowledge gained from my past experience in an effort to be a better wife to my spouse.
I really hope you are doing well and life is treating you kindly. I don't expect a reply from you, but am open to your response. Take care of yourself.
Kind Regards,
Leslie
Ok... now the strangest thing about this. It was from a Yahoo email addy that listed the sender as Leslie Davidson. From what I can remember, she didn't have a Yahoo email account... tho as I said I don't remember much. The combination of that plus the fact that she Goggle'd me is just odd. Note: Not only is she NOT a role player, but absolutely hated them and pretty much forbade me to play them also (another problem with the relationship)...
Now the question is, do I even bother replying? If so, what do you say? Yup, took me years to get back on my feet after all that happened... now that I finally am moving on with my life I get the joy of trying to mince words with the person who screwed it up? Hey, thanks to you I am afraid to get into a serious relationship with anyone, which in the long run likely spared me much pain so thanks! Um...
Not that I am not thrilled with the way my life is going right now. I am moving to a beautiful new state. I am going for a PhD in a subject that fascinates me. It is a nice, friendly, small town. I actually feel good about myself for the first time in ages. *shrugs* Thrown for a moderate loop currently...
Drew