1. How long was Elly standing there, holding out the rake in a way that would cause intense muscle fatigue within minutes? Think of all the actually productive things she could have done instead of waiting on the off-chance that her daughter attempted to sneak out of the house and pass by. For example, rake the leaves. Or, ask her daughter to do it.
2. Everyone expects you to "cook dinner" (open a can and toss the contents into a pot) because the other people in the house are a full-time dentist who pays all the bills and actual children. I wish I had a dime for every time Elly acted under the conviction that she lived in a group home with four equals who shared everything (except the bills; Elly wanted to believe she contributed without ever doing anything that would allow her to contribute.) For the 4000th time, Elly- this is what you bought into, because this is what you wanted. You are a trophy wife and a mother. John isn't at his office ranting about how he's expected to take care of patients without the help of his wife and children. Stop this nonsense.
1) Probably long enough for people to point and laugh at the crazy idiot that dentist married again.
2) Elly is incapable of understanding that children are not put on the Earth to make her life easier. It's why she eventually decides it's a horrible idea to let April have any sort of social life at all because, as a child, she will do what children do and cause a catastrophe.
This means that the person actually running the store has to compensate for her alleged boss's alleged parenting:
The dumb look on Elly's stupid face tells us that she doesn't understand what she looks like to the people who have to deal with her nonsense and entitlement.
"I've made arrangements for them to be looked after."
I want to see the receipts. Based on the "arrangements" to see that her own children are looked after, I suspect Elly's "arrangements" for the pets involve a locked basement and newspaper on the floor.
"I'll make arrangements for the bus to drop you off in town, and you can walk to the store."
A whole lot of arranging miraculously being done by the most disorganized, thoughtless twit in the entire province. And just because Elly wants April where she can see her, why does that mean April has to work? Why can't she do her homework in a quiet spot in the store, or talk on the phone, or have someone get off the bus with her and then be brought home when the store closes so she isn't entirely under the thumb of her mother? This is so stupid.
She actually means "you need to suck it up and do free labor for me because I can't bear the thought of you having fun and being a kid while I'm working at this job I created for myself because I need to feel important for a few minutes before I can start whining about how the store runs me and dare John to guffaw when I talk of 'retirement.'"
John: "I've decided that I am going to expand my office and take more patients in the future."
April: "Does that mean I'll have to split my time between the bookstore and your office?"
John: "What are you talking about? If I decide I need to work harder, that's my decision and it has nothing to do with you. You're busy being a kid, after all."
It does effectively mean that person most likely to want Elly to sell the store is April, because then she can have a life where she is not at school and not at work for her mother constantly. There was a little Chinese restaurant close to our house that was family-owned. The children of the owners were about the same age as my kids and while my kids were involved in extracurricular activities, all these kids did was work the family business. I suspect Elly is operating on the same basic idea that you have kids for the free labor, kind of like they used to do in the old days when almost everyone was a farmer.
Right. Michael and Elizabeth were modeled off real people, so Lynn never had Elly go full-up nonparent on them. However, with April, she built whole storylines around them not parenting her.
Elly's answer to "why can't I go to Becky's house" becomes pointedly obvious- Elly wants free labor at the store. There is zero indication that Becky's mother objects to April coming over there. "This something we have to deal with"- yes, and despite being able to call a school and get help for the pets, this is something you won't do. For no other reason than you want April's help at the store.
So Liz was Elly's Help when she was a SAHM pretending to have a job, then April was Elly's Help when she was a SAHM pretending to be a business owner. No matter what Elly did, she needed assistance from her female children because God Forbid she actually be an adult who takes full ownership of her responsibilities.
Mostly because someone is projecting her own simmering and unquenchable resentment onto everyone else. Lynn doesn't admit that while she can be angry, it's stupid to be angry forever. This leads to her idiotic belief that everyone else lets stuff sit in their bellies and burn. If someone screws up, they assume that they can never be forgiven.
1. How long was Elly standing there, holding out the rake in a way that would cause intense muscle fatigue within minutes? Think of all the actually productive things she could have done instead of waiting on the off-chance that her daughter attempted to sneak out of the house and pass by. For example, rake the leaves. Or, ask her daughter to do it.
2. Everyone expects you to "cook dinner" (open a can and toss the contents into a pot) because the other people in the house are a full-time dentist who pays all the bills and actual children. I wish I had a dime for every time Elly acted under the conviction that she lived in a group home with four equals who shared everything (except the bills; Elly wanted to believe she contributed without ever doing anything that would allow her to contribute.) For the 4000th time, Elly- this is what you bought into, because this is what you wanted. You are a trophy wife and a mother. John isn't at his office ranting about how he's expected to take care of patients without the help of his wife and children. Stop this nonsense.
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1) Probably long enough for people to point and laugh at the crazy idiot that dentist married again.
2) Elly is incapable of understanding that children are not put on the Earth to make her life easier. It's why she eventually decides it's a horrible idea to let April have any sort of social life at all because, as a child, she will do what children do and cause a catastrophe.
This means that the person actually running the store has to compensate for her alleged boss's alleged parenting:
The dumb look on Elly's stupid face tells us that she doesn't understand what she looks like to the people who have to deal with her nonsense and entitlement.
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"I've made arrangements for them to be looked after."
I want to see the receipts. Based on the "arrangements" to see that her own children are looked after, I suspect Elly's "arrangements" for the pets involve a locked basement and newspaper on the floor.
"I'll make arrangements for the bus to drop you off in town, and you can walk to the store."
A whole lot of arranging miraculously being done by the most disorganized, thoughtless twit in the entire province. And just because Elly wants April where she can see her, why does that mean April has to work? Why can't she do her homework in a quiet spot in the store, or talk on the phone, or have someone get off the bus with her and then be brought home when the store closes so she isn't entirely under the thumb of her mother? This is so stupid.
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She actually means "you need to suck it up and do free labor for me because I can't bear the thought of you having fun and being a kid while I'm working at this job I created for myself because I need to feel important for a few minutes before I can start whining about how the store runs me and dare John to guffaw when I talk of 'retirement.'"
John: "I've decided that I am going to expand my office and take more patients in the future."
April: "Does that mean I'll have to split my time between the bookstore and your office?"
John: "What are you talking about? If I decide I need to work harder, that's my decision and it has nothing to do with you. You're busy being a kid, after all."
Elly: "WHAT ARE YOU IMPLYING????"
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It does effectively mean that person most likely to want Elly to sell the store is April, because then she can have a life where she is not at school and not at work for her mother constantly. There was a little Chinese restaurant close to our house that was family-owned. The children of the owners were about the same age as my kids and while my kids were involved in extracurricular activities, all these kids did was work the family business. I suspect Elly is operating on the same basic idea that you have kids for the free labor, kind of like they used to do in the old days when almost everyone was a farmer.
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Right. Michael and Elizabeth were modeled off real people, so Lynn never had Elly go full-up nonparent on them. However, with April, she built whole storylines around them not parenting her.
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Elly's answer to "why can't I go to Becky's house" becomes pointedly obvious- Elly wants free labor at the store. There is zero indication that Becky's mother objects to April coming over there. "This something we have to deal with"- yes, and despite being able to call a school and get help for the pets, this is something you won't do. For no other reason than you want April's help at the store.
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someone might as well have a great big thought bubble filled with dark squiggly marks over her head.
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So Liz was Elly's Help when she was a SAHM pretending to have a job, then April was Elly's Help when she was a SAHM pretending to be a business owner. No matter what Elly did, she needed assistance from her female children because God Forbid she actually be an adult who takes full ownership of her responsibilities.
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Mostly because someone is projecting her own simmering and unquenchable resentment onto everyone else. Lynn doesn't admit that while she can be angry, it's stupid to be angry forever. This leads to her idiotic belief that everyone else lets stuff sit in their bellies and burn. If someone screws up, they assume that they can never be forgiven.
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The phrase Freudian Excuse:
Is NO Excuse comes into play:
It doesn't matter worth a damn if Elly is incapable of sympathy. Liz still has to own up to her screw-ups to everyone else.
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"How was he special?'
"He had a crush on me and stole it."
"I am changing my name and moving out. This family is a lost cause."
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