Phallus Envy
We were at breakfast yesterday morning and there was a family sitting at the table next to us, in full view from my seat. It was an image I've been seeing more and more often recently when there are teenagers amongst the family members. The teenage daughters are always quite obviously "gender queer" and look like boys.
What I don't understand, and what I know no liberal can possibly explain, is how it is that by their own mantra masculinity is toxic. White males are especially so. In fact, if a latino or black man has conservative views they are, in all seriousness, considered "white supremacists" by the left. So already we see the complete lack of logic at work here.
But, my question is *WHY* is it all these "gender queer" teenage girls go out of their way to physically emulate the appearance of a male. If masculinity is "so toxic" and men are considered "problematic" and the root of all these perceived issues in society... why attempt to look like them? Why not go the opposite direction to ultra-femininity?
There is, in my opinion, no logical response to this because their entire ideology lacks any logic. Logic cannot be present in people who are entirely emotion-driven. Emotion drives out logic. It confuses the mind. It takes reason and turns it on its head.
More often than not, the parents I see with these kids seem to be the types who totally support this kind of madness. The PFLAGG mothers imitating that character from 'Queer as Folk'. Going along with whatever inane nonsense their child comes up with because they don't know how to be a parent. It is rare for me to see anyone with kids in the world today actually parenting. I would say more than 70% of the time I see a parent with a child that parent has their face buried in their cellphone. Such outstanding role models, no wonder their kids are confused and neglected.
What is wrong with being a woman? What is wrong with femininity?
I am asking these questions as a gay man who for most of his adult life, thanks to many foul experiences with women, would consider himself a misogynist. On a person to person basis, I can get along with anyone. But, I've had too many unfortunate, nasty, unpleasant experiences with women (most of which are detailed in these pages) not to admit on some level an aversion to the opposite sex. I do not believe my homosexuality sprung from this aversion, as I had many, many female friends for many years in my younger days. And often felt more comfortable around women. It wasn't until I was deep into the workforce and saw how vindictive and manipulative the female sex was to me (and more so each other) in those situations that self-preservation became more important to me than "getting along" with everyone.
Yet, here I am speaking up for femininity. Asking where it has a gone and what is wrong with it.
Last week we watched 'Pleasantville', which I do not think I'd seen since it was at the theater in 1998. I remember enjoying it back then, but it is 2024 now... it is "current year". And because of that, I watched the movie through a completely different lens than I did when I was in my early twenties back then.
It was funny how many engrained liberal tropes were within a film from so long ago. The evil and/or inane white, male characters. A woman being oppressed simply for being a housewife. Sex and sexually promiscuity being freeing and seemingly without consequences. If I didn't know when the movie was made, I likely would have thought it was some time after 2015.
We discussed it afterward and I had to ask yet another question. One that I've heard Andrew Klavan discuss in excess. What is wrong with being a housewife? Back in the old days, it was a real job. Not like this image of Peg Bundy sitting on a couch, eating chocolates and watching TV all day while Al was working at the shoe shop. The woman was the keeper and caretaker for them home, the family and the daily operations therein. I could even agree with a point that Klavan I think has made, which is that the "family" is falling apart because the woman, the mother, is out earning a living thinking she must compete with a man in that way instead of managing the home, which IS a big deal. It IS important and IS a huge responsibility. But feminists would have women think it is slavery and oppression.
I am no housewife. But, I do deal with a lot of the day to day "operations" around the house because I work at home. And I can say it IS a lot of work. Remembering to do certain tasks every day, every week. When I was more conscious about making dinner every night, there would be planning there. I often do all the shopping, though we do get groceries together. But all kinds of other details surrounding this house and the tasks involved require a shit-ton of effort. We don't have kids, but I can't imagine how much more work there would be to do every day if we did.
For as many issues I am having recently with my mother, I would never say that she didn't work her ass off when I was growing up to run the house. Being a stay-at-home mom is a full time job. And it is a job that should have no shame wrapped around it. And I've seen plenty of Internet clips recently of modern young women coming to the realization that the workforce sucks and that being in it takes away from their life experiences raising their families. There's a reason for literal thousands of years women were the ones at home... and it is not because they were oppressed slaves. In mine, and other's opinions like Klavan, it is because they posses the innate skills from which to do such a job. Skills that are not necessarily in the toolbox of the average male.
There's even a whole movement of sorts these days called being a "Trad Wife", i.e. traditional. And these women have their Tik Toks and YouTube channels showing off their trad wife lives. This sort of thing is not even limited to women. Many, many people from time immemorial have looked back at "the old days" and thought them to be better times.
To clumsily come full circle. I just do not understand when I see these young girls at stores or restaurants or wherever trying so desperately to look so undesirable and masculine. I see self-hatred. I see confusion. Everyone when they are young goes through weird phases trying to find their identities. These days though, to me, it seems more extreme and militant.
I just trust in the idea that trends always move in waves and some day in the future, when this current batch of confused people get older, the next generation will move staunchly in the other direction and reject all the nonsense currently infecting society.
On a similar topic, I downloaded this old documentary from 1995 called 'The Celluloid Closet' about homosexuality in film. I'd watched it way back then, likely after I moved out on my own. I have vague recollections of that sense of wonder and "belonging" at seeing a documentary in the 1990s where the people in it were talking about people "like me". But, it is "current year" and it is always amazing how things change.
What I am hearing a lot throughout this documentary are the wishes of the people speaking that some of these old movies were secretly implying what couldn't be spoken. Gay subtext laced within movies that censors didn't pick up on. The comedy of it is that they even had a writer for one of these films, 'Rebel Without A Cause', who said that this one character was *not* at all written as gay, *BUT* he "would have" if he wrote the movie today. And that it was okay if people wanted to see the character that way.
And right there is my issue. People see what they want to see. Throughout this documentary, people are saying they see what wasn't necessarily there when it comes to gays in film. If it really is there, great. If someone intended it to be there, fine. But there's this desperate tone throughout with all these people talking about "representation" and wanting to "see themselves" in the movie. It makes me think of Lezzo at work, who says she cannot enjoy a movie unless there is a lesbian in it for her to "identify with". And that, in my opinion, is a stunted, moronic, unintelligent position.
I'm not a right, Cuban drug dealer, but I can enjoy 'Scarface'. I was never a slave, but I enjoyed 'Spartacus: Blood and Sand'. I am gay, but that didn't stop me from crying over the love story in 'The Notebook'. This idea that something can only be enjoyed if there is exact representation is asinine. The human experience is consistent. Throughout all of time, through every culture. Through all these nationalities and races, there IS common experience. That is why Shakespeare's works have endured for hundreds of years and been redone and reimagined over and over again. Because his writing speaks to the HUMAN experience. Not the "wHiTe mAlE" experience. Not to the "eUrOpEAn" experience. The fucking HUMAN experience.
Betrayal, lust for power and money, death, love, romance, jealousy, youth... it doesn't matter what package that experience is wrapped in. At our core, we are all human beings. It is insultingly limited how certain people and groups today think. The only thing that matters to some is being the biggest victim. And that is what I am hearing even in this documentary from 29 years ago.
They also whine about movies that have homosexuals as the bad guys. Why should gays be exempt from such roles? Some gay people ARE evil people. Some gays ARE assholes. Being gay doesn't automatically mean you should be untouchable. The killer in 'Silence of the Lambs' was trans... even in this documentary they see that as wrong. Why? There are trans killers out there. There have been multiple recent shootings, some involving little kids getting killed, by trans shooters. Would the speakers in this movie claim that that is happening now because of the Buffalo Bill character?
I always think of 'Seinfeld' and how Jerry Seinfeld said they made the gay couple characters on the show the meanest, most aggressive characters because it was funny. Because gays were always presented as the nice, quiet and/or weak ones. So he made them into these two asshole and it was funny. Because even though it doesn't seem like it, even to me lately, gay people are human beings too. The problem today is that so many of them are crying victim while simultaneously trying to push their sex stuff onto little kids and just acting out in really uncomfortable ways... they are creating the hate they falsely believe still exists.
Most people don't give a fuck when someone is gay anymore (well, except in Muslim countries, which liberals NEVER comment on). If someone does, they generally don't say anything. And they have every right to dislike homosexuals if they want to. It's a free country. But, the gays got marriage and then they got bored being accepted. They didn't know what to do if they couldn't be victims, so they had to keep imagining new ways in which they could be. Everything from Trump putting gays in concentration camps to some baker not wanting to make a gay wedding cake being equal to the Holocaust.
If things went backward, I wouldn't blame the people that started lynching homos. The whole Rainbow Community has become a mob of petulant crybabies. There is social commodity in being a victim, and that is the only thing that matters to them now.
I haven't even finished this documentary yet. I probably should have waited to watch it with the Sparrow. I am sure come the end, I'll have more to rant about.
I do miss the old days sometimes though. It was fun to be gay back then. Like a secret society of sorts. These kids today are more accepted than any time in at least our recent history. And yet they whine as if they are in shackles. Most young people really are morons. And unfortunately when they grow up liberal, they never move past being morons. They are incapable of any self-reflection.
What I don't understand, and what I know no liberal can possibly explain, is how it is that by their own mantra masculinity is toxic. White males are especially so. In fact, if a latino or black man has conservative views they are, in all seriousness, considered "white supremacists" by the left. So already we see the complete lack of logic at work here.
But, my question is *WHY* is it all these "gender queer" teenage girls go out of their way to physically emulate the appearance of a male. If masculinity is "so toxic" and men are considered "problematic" and the root of all these perceived issues in society... why attempt to look like them? Why not go the opposite direction to ultra-femininity?
There is, in my opinion, no logical response to this because their entire ideology lacks any logic. Logic cannot be present in people who are entirely emotion-driven. Emotion drives out logic. It confuses the mind. It takes reason and turns it on its head.
More often than not, the parents I see with these kids seem to be the types who totally support this kind of madness. The PFLAGG mothers imitating that character from 'Queer as Folk'. Going along with whatever inane nonsense their child comes up with because they don't know how to be a parent. It is rare for me to see anyone with kids in the world today actually parenting. I would say more than 70% of the time I see a parent with a child that parent has their face buried in their cellphone. Such outstanding role models, no wonder their kids are confused and neglected.
What is wrong with being a woman? What is wrong with femininity?
I am asking these questions as a gay man who for most of his adult life, thanks to many foul experiences with women, would consider himself a misogynist. On a person to person basis, I can get along with anyone. But, I've had too many unfortunate, nasty, unpleasant experiences with women (most of which are detailed in these pages) not to admit on some level an aversion to the opposite sex. I do not believe my homosexuality sprung from this aversion, as I had many, many female friends for many years in my younger days. And often felt more comfortable around women. It wasn't until I was deep into the workforce and saw how vindictive and manipulative the female sex was to me (and more so each other) in those situations that self-preservation became more important to me than "getting along" with everyone.
Yet, here I am speaking up for femininity. Asking where it has a gone and what is wrong with it.
Last week we watched 'Pleasantville', which I do not think I'd seen since it was at the theater in 1998. I remember enjoying it back then, but it is 2024 now... it is "current year". And because of that, I watched the movie through a completely different lens than I did when I was in my early twenties back then.
It was funny how many engrained liberal tropes were within a film from so long ago. The evil and/or inane white, male characters. A woman being oppressed simply for being a housewife. Sex and sexually promiscuity being freeing and seemingly without consequences. If I didn't know when the movie was made, I likely would have thought it was some time after 2015.
We discussed it afterward and I had to ask yet another question. One that I've heard Andrew Klavan discuss in excess. What is wrong with being a housewife? Back in the old days, it was a real job. Not like this image of Peg Bundy sitting on a couch, eating chocolates and watching TV all day while Al was working at the shoe shop. The woman was the keeper and caretaker for them home, the family and the daily operations therein. I could even agree with a point that Klavan I think has made, which is that the "family" is falling apart because the woman, the mother, is out earning a living thinking she must compete with a man in that way instead of managing the home, which IS a big deal. It IS important and IS a huge responsibility. But feminists would have women think it is slavery and oppression.
I am no housewife. But, I do deal with a lot of the day to day "operations" around the house because I work at home. And I can say it IS a lot of work. Remembering to do certain tasks every day, every week. When I was more conscious about making dinner every night, there would be planning there. I often do all the shopping, though we do get groceries together. But all kinds of other details surrounding this house and the tasks involved require a shit-ton of effort. We don't have kids, but I can't imagine how much more work there would be to do every day if we did.
For as many issues I am having recently with my mother, I would never say that she didn't work her ass off when I was growing up to run the house. Being a stay-at-home mom is a full time job. And it is a job that should have no shame wrapped around it. And I've seen plenty of Internet clips recently of modern young women coming to the realization that the workforce sucks and that being in it takes away from their life experiences raising their families. There's a reason for literal thousands of years women were the ones at home... and it is not because they were oppressed slaves. In mine, and other's opinions like Klavan, it is because they posses the innate skills from which to do such a job. Skills that are not necessarily in the toolbox of the average male.
There's even a whole movement of sorts these days called being a "Trad Wife", i.e. traditional. And these women have their Tik Toks and YouTube channels showing off their trad wife lives. This sort of thing is not even limited to women. Many, many people from time immemorial have looked back at "the old days" and thought them to be better times.
To clumsily come full circle. I just do not understand when I see these young girls at stores or restaurants or wherever trying so desperately to look so undesirable and masculine. I see self-hatred. I see confusion. Everyone when they are young goes through weird phases trying to find their identities. These days though, to me, it seems more extreme and militant.
I just trust in the idea that trends always move in waves and some day in the future, when this current batch of confused people get older, the next generation will move staunchly in the other direction and reject all the nonsense currently infecting society.
On a similar topic, I downloaded this old documentary from 1995 called 'The Celluloid Closet' about homosexuality in film. I'd watched it way back then, likely after I moved out on my own. I have vague recollections of that sense of wonder and "belonging" at seeing a documentary in the 1990s where the people in it were talking about people "like me". But, it is "current year" and it is always amazing how things change.
What I am hearing a lot throughout this documentary are the wishes of the people speaking that some of these old movies were secretly implying what couldn't be spoken. Gay subtext laced within movies that censors didn't pick up on. The comedy of it is that they even had a writer for one of these films, 'Rebel Without A Cause', who said that this one character was *not* at all written as gay, *BUT* he "would have" if he wrote the movie today. And that it was okay if people wanted to see the character that way.
And right there is my issue. People see what they want to see. Throughout this documentary, people are saying they see what wasn't necessarily there when it comes to gays in film. If it really is there, great. If someone intended it to be there, fine. But there's this desperate tone throughout with all these people talking about "representation" and wanting to "see themselves" in the movie. It makes me think of Lezzo at work, who says she cannot enjoy a movie unless there is a lesbian in it for her to "identify with". And that, in my opinion, is a stunted, moronic, unintelligent position.
I'm not a right, Cuban drug dealer, but I can enjoy 'Scarface'. I was never a slave, but I enjoyed 'Spartacus: Blood and Sand'. I am gay, but that didn't stop me from crying over the love story in 'The Notebook'. This idea that something can only be enjoyed if there is exact representation is asinine. The human experience is consistent. Throughout all of time, through every culture. Through all these nationalities and races, there IS common experience. That is why Shakespeare's works have endured for hundreds of years and been redone and reimagined over and over again. Because his writing speaks to the HUMAN experience. Not the "wHiTe mAlE" experience. Not to the "eUrOpEAn" experience. The fucking HUMAN experience.
Betrayal, lust for power and money, death, love, romance, jealousy, youth... it doesn't matter what package that experience is wrapped in. At our core, we are all human beings. It is insultingly limited how certain people and groups today think. The only thing that matters to some is being the biggest victim. And that is what I am hearing even in this documentary from 29 years ago.
They also whine about movies that have homosexuals as the bad guys. Why should gays be exempt from such roles? Some gay people ARE evil people. Some gays ARE assholes. Being gay doesn't automatically mean you should be untouchable. The killer in 'Silence of the Lambs' was trans... even in this documentary they see that as wrong. Why? There are trans killers out there. There have been multiple recent shootings, some involving little kids getting killed, by trans shooters. Would the speakers in this movie claim that that is happening now because of the Buffalo Bill character?
I always think of 'Seinfeld' and how Jerry Seinfeld said they made the gay couple characters on the show the meanest, most aggressive characters because it was funny. Because gays were always presented as the nice, quiet and/or weak ones. So he made them into these two asshole and it was funny. Because even though it doesn't seem like it, even to me lately, gay people are human beings too. The problem today is that so many of them are crying victim while simultaneously trying to push their sex stuff onto little kids and just acting out in really uncomfortable ways... they are creating the hate they falsely believe still exists.
Most people don't give a fuck when someone is gay anymore (well, except in Muslim countries, which liberals NEVER comment on). If someone does, they generally don't say anything. And they have every right to dislike homosexuals if they want to. It's a free country. But, the gays got marriage and then they got bored being accepted. They didn't know what to do if they couldn't be victims, so they had to keep imagining new ways in which they could be. Everything from Trump putting gays in concentration camps to some baker not wanting to make a gay wedding cake being equal to the Holocaust.
If things went backward, I wouldn't blame the people that started lynching homos. The whole Rainbow Community has become a mob of petulant crybabies. There is social commodity in being a victim, and that is the only thing that matters to them now.
I haven't even finished this documentary yet. I probably should have waited to watch it with the Sparrow. I am sure come the end, I'll have more to rant about.
I do miss the old days sometimes though. It was fun to be gay back then. Like a secret society of sorts. These kids today are more accepted than any time in at least our recent history. And yet they whine as if they are in shackles. Most young people really are morons. And unfortunately when they grow up liberal, they never move past being morons. They are incapable of any self-reflection.