the curse of hypergamy
http://www.sarahwilson.com.au/2010/02/be-inspired-the-special-problem-of-strong-women-looking-for-love/
"But the dominant feeling I got was that the love of Harold and Antonia, which was passionate and intense, was based on the mutual force of their characters. Early on, just after their affair had got under way in 1975, Antonia was warned by her brother, Thomas: "You have a special problem. You are a woman and a strong character yet you want your husband to be stronger. Women with strong characters who want to dominate are always fine because there are plenty of weak men around. Also plenty of strong men for weak women. But yours is a special problem." Actually, Antonia concludes, "He's quite right in a maddening way."
http://www.theguardian.com/culture/2010/jan/13/harold-pinter-lady-antonia-fraser?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+theguardian%2Fbooks%2Frss+%28Books%29
"But the dominant feeling I got was that the love of Harold and Antonia, which was passionate and intense, was based on the mutual force of their characters. Early on, just after their affair had got under way in 1975, Antonia was warned by her brother, Thomas: "You have a special problem. You are a woman and a strong character yet you want your husband to be stronger. Women with strong characters who want to dominate are always fine because there are plenty of weak men around. Also plenty of strong men for weak women. But yours is a special problem." Actually, Antonia concludes, "He's quite right in a maddening way."
http://www.theguardian.com/culture/2010/jan/13/harold-pinter-lady-antonia-fraser?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+theguardian%2Fbooks%2Frss+%28Books%29