Gah. Friends can be so needy
I agree. I can be needy too. But maybe needy is not what I mean. What I mean is that sometimes a friend comes to you and tells you "I don't want to be friends with X anymore", X being a mutual friend. I try to validate their feelings and listen and reply along the lines of you are perfectly fine with what you feel. Sometimes we need a break. Don't spend any more energy than you have to on them. It is time to water other plants and so on and so forth. Said friend gets upset at you because you are not understanding what they are trying to say because I was focusing on her feelings and not on what X had done.
This makes me mad. She gets mad at me because I don't tell her what she wants to hear. What did she want me to do? To say?
If you have any ideas, let me know.