Megan, Find your own way to DragonCon
Megan, I have transferred your membership to someone else. Do yourself a favor and read the rest of this.
I don't want people to think that I did this out of pettiness, meanness, anger, or spite. No, the reason I did this was for a much simpler reason.
When I first bought that membership for you, it was meant for my girlfriend. After we broke up, then I was more than happy to let it continue to be for my friend. Since then, you have cut yourself off from me completely. You have me blocked most everywhere, you refuse to answer my e-mails, and you don't even acknowledge my presence in social situations. You have gone out of your way to disavow your friendship with me, going so far as to call the 6 months you spent with me the worst of your life (I don't care how you meant it) and call my attempts at salvaging what friendship we once had as stalking, and all of this so that you can be friends again with your cosplay buddy (more on her later). Well, if you don't want to be friends with me, then that's fine. The thing is, I don't give things to people that aren't my friends, and since you have decided to act like a childish 5th grader, then I will treat you like a child and take away this thing that you don't deserve.
You had every chance to keep this from happening. If you'd have shown even the slightest bit of backbone and stood up to your friends and said, "look, I know you don't like Dan, but he's still my friend, deal with it." Then I would have gladly let you keep the membership.
If you would have responded to even one of my e-mails, saying something like, "hey, I need my space. We can be friends again later but for right now, I don't really want to talk to you." Then I would have let you keep it.
Hell, last Friday night, if you would have taken 2 seconds to tap me on the shoulder and say "hey" instead of freaking out and ranting at your cast mates about my mere presence there, then I would have taken that transfer request and torn it up. All it would have taken was just a single ounce of maturity. But no, you have given me zero communication, positive or negative, and acted like a passive/aggressive middle-schooler ranting and talking about me to everyone except the one person you needed to: me.
So go ahead with your life, then. Enjoy your time with your new, Tiffany-approved boyfriend, keep on making and buying Tiffany's costumes, keep on making excuses and taking blame upon yourself when your friends abuse you and take you for granted. It's the path you have chosen, and I want no part in it. I pray that eventually you will see the pattern that I and many other people have seen in your life. Just to remind you: I never threatened you with unfriending, I never abused you, everything I ever asked of you, YOU were the one who decided, I never made you choose between me and your friends, I was always understanding of your problems, and I did everything you ever asked of me.
I know that there are those out there that will disagree with what I've done here. I can understand and even respect your viewpoint. Believe me, I absolutely did not want to do this either, but Megan's actions have left me no choice. I saw that someone made the comment, "he should have talked to you about it first." Thing is, I wanted whatever reaction Megan did to be genuine, not a placation just so she can get what she wants.
I know that with this, I have probably permanently severed any chances of rekindling our friendship, but I do hope that someday we will be able to. Not many people saw it, but I did truly see a responsible, mature woman wanting to rise out of the child that was once you. And one of these years, when she has emerged, I would very much like to call that woman my friend. I will never say "I told you so", I will never hold anything over your head, and as always, my friendship is yours to have, unconditionally. Until then, I guess this is good-bye.
I don't want people to think that I did this out of pettiness, meanness, anger, or spite. No, the reason I did this was for a much simpler reason.
When I first bought that membership for you, it was meant for my girlfriend. After we broke up, then I was more than happy to let it continue to be for my friend. Since then, you have cut yourself off from me completely. You have me blocked most everywhere, you refuse to answer my e-mails, and you don't even acknowledge my presence in social situations. You have gone out of your way to disavow your friendship with me, going so far as to call the 6 months you spent with me the worst of your life (I don't care how you meant it) and call my attempts at salvaging what friendship we once had as stalking, and all of this so that you can be friends again with your cosplay buddy (more on her later). Well, if you don't want to be friends with me, then that's fine. The thing is, I don't give things to people that aren't my friends, and since you have decided to act like a childish 5th grader, then I will treat you like a child and take away this thing that you don't deserve.
You had every chance to keep this from happening. If you'd have shown even the slightest bit of backbone and stood up to your friends and said, "look, I know you don't like Dan, but he's still my friend, deal with it." Then I would have gladly let you keep the membership.
If you would have responded to even one of my e-mails, saying something like, "hey, I need my space. We can be friends again later but for right now, I don't really want to talk to you." Then I would have let you keep it.
Hell, last Friday night, if you would have taken 2 seconds to tap me on the shoulder and say "hey" instead of freaking out and ranting at your cast mates about my mere presence there, then I would have taken that transfer request and torn it up. All it would have taken was just a single ounce of maturity. But no, you have given me zero communication, positive or negative, and acted like a passive/aggressive middle-schooler ranting and talking about me to everyone except the one person you needed to: me.
So go ahead with your life, then. Enjoy your time with your new, Tiffany-approved boyfriend, keep on making and buying Tiffany's costumes, keep on making excuses and taking blame upon yourself when your friends abuse you and take you for granted. It's the path you have chosen, and I want no part in it. I pray that eventually you will see the pattern that I and many other people have seen in your life. Just to remind you: I never threatened you with unfriending, I never abused you, everything I ever asked of you, YOU were the one who decided, I never made you choose between me and your friends, I was always understanding of your problems, and I did everything you ever asked of me.
I know that there are those out there that will disagree with what I've done here. I can understand and even respect your viewpoint. Believe me, I absolutely did not want to do this either, but Megan's actions have left me no choice. I saw that someone made the comment, "he should have talked to you about it first." Thing is, I wanted whatever reaction Megan did to be genuine, not a placation just so she can get what she wants.
I know that with this, I have probably permanently severed any chances of rekindling our friendship, but I do hope that someday we will be able to. Not many people saw it, but I did truly see a responsible, mature woman wanting to rise out of the child that was once you. And one of these years, when she has emerged, I would very much like to call that woman my friend. I will never say "I told you so", I will never hold anything over your head, and as always, my friendship is yours to have, unconditionally. Until then, I guess this is good-bye.