Is normal too much to ask??????????
ok i don't want to sound too judgemental here or anything, but if someone doesn't speak to you for two years and even when you did know them they were just acasual acquaintance through an ex girlfriend suddenly starts im'ing you and throwing out offers of sexual favors and telling you that you have to go behind your friends backs even if you are to be just friends with them it's a little too odd for my liking. Like where does that even come from? You don't see or think about someone for two years and then suddenly get the idea to start pulling this stuff out of some box thats been shoved in the back of the closet. And who tells someone that they have to lie and go behind their best friends' backs to be around them because they and your friends hate each other...and even more so, throws it out there like some nonchalant thing. That's completely dishonorable and why would i throw away 13 years of friendship for someone i hardly even know? Thats rediculous...I mean i'm sorry that you're going through a rough time and you're lonely, but never in a million years am i going to fuck over my friends for a little physical gratification and i'm not totally sure someone who operates by that mindset is someone i want to even associate myself with.
Something else that bothers is that after two nights of talking, she seems to be forming some kind of attachment to me for which there really isn't any basis and i really don't want that right now because A: i know i'm not going to feel the same way, B: I'm not interested in forming anything with anybody right now C: this is already more drama and bullshit than i care to deal with, and D: someone who becomes attached in such a rapid fashion isn't interested in you per se....they're lonely and looking for anyone else for companionship...its an unfortunate thing, but i don't want to be somebody's crutch....if someone says they want me, they better want me for me and not just becuase they're in a down period and they want some companionship...it sounds a bit harsh but its only a few steps above being used and i have no interest in that whole scene...
Something else that bothers is that after two nights of talking, she seems to be forming some kind of attachment to me for which there really isn't any basis and i really don't want that right now because A: i know i'm not going to feel the same way, B: I'm not interested in forming anything with anybody right now C: this is already more drama and bullshit than i care to deal with, and D: someone who becomes attached in such a rapid fashion isn't interested in you per se....they're lonely and looking for anyone else for companionship...its an unfortunate thing, but i don't want to be somebody's crutch....if someone says they want me, they better want me for me and not just becuase they're in a down period and they want some companionship...it sounds a bit harsh but its only a few steps above being used and i have no interest in that whole scene...