I know, it was mean-spirited, and I do feel bad, but I'm standing by it. In any case, I did go on a gorgeous date earlier this week with one of my "matches" which started on a phenomenal note when he showed up with one of those tiny 3-inch cakes from finale, and the rest of the evening stayed on par!! And I am guilty of bringing a shiksa (who spent the evening chatting with surplus girls and did not turn in a match-card), so it's probably karma. But my best friend, and she really needed me, and really needed to feel better about herself that day. If I hadn't already RSVPed, I would have taken her out to a bar to get hit on. It seemed like a good idea at the time.
And I shouldn't have ad hominimed on appearence, because I've dated shorter, balder, fatter, etc., and had fabulouys times and even fell in love with "imperfect"-looking boys who were alarmingly intelligent, brilliantly engaging conversationalists, endearing sweethearts, wickedly funny, etc. But if this boy possessed any of those qualities, he kept them extremely well hidden; unfair to us both. The only "problematic" bit was the fact that he was passing himself off as belonging in the 21-34 group, and that is so not a huge deal.
In the interest of constructive feedback, and while I'm thinking about it, oddly enough the part of the story that most amuses and weirds people out was the format of the event: the whole being assigned a number and colored star and told to go left or right. Yeah. Which didn't strike me as odd at the time, but some people may be sensitive to it in future events...
Constructive feedback is welcome, thanks. I understand what you're saying. The only previous time we held the Tu B'Av mixer, we did no age segregation... but we got concerned that mingling 22-year-olds with 45-year-olds was serving mostly to creep out the former and frustrate the latter. If we do try age divisions again next time, I think we'll have to find a classier way of doing it. (Two separate events on subsequent evenings? Maybe.)
And I shouldn't have ad hominimed on appearence, because I've dated shorter, balder, fatter, etc., and had fabulouys times and even fell in love with "imperfect"-looking boys who were alarmingly intelligent, brilliantly engaging conversationalists, endearing sweethearts, wickedly funny, etc. But if this boy possessed any of those qualities, he kept them extremely well hidden; unfair to us both. The only "problematic" bit was the fact that he was passing himself off as belonging in the 21-34 group, and that is so not a huge deal.
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In the interest of constructive feedback, and while I'm thinking about it, oddly enough the part of the story that most amuses and weirds people out was the format of the event: the whole being assigned a number and colored star and told to go left or right. Yeah. Which didn't strike me as odd at the time, but some people may be sensitive to it in future events...
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