So I have a question regarding Transexuality
First I want to say that I don't mean to be offensive to anyone, I'm just having a hard time understanding and if anything I think it's good that I can admit this.
I've always been unsure about transexuality but never knew why. I figured it was just because of my lack of knowledge and I've never been one to dislike anyone because of it. If anything I've been very supportive of everyone I've known who has gone through a transition or even just questioned themselves. Now I'm starting to see why I might not agree with transexuality and I'm willing to discuss this with anyone who has more knowledge of this because I know I'm no expert. So these are my reasons...
I am very passionate about there being a gender spectrum.
A gender spectrum by definition would mean that a boy can be biologically a guy and still want to do feminine things. The spectrum theory is very individual based and it makes it so there aren't any pressures to be a certain way if you think or act in this way. You and you and that's all there is to it. This however goes against what has been drilling into our society for centuries of gender roles. Since I believe that you can still be biologically a guy but seen as soft, beautiful, and delicate I don't see a reason for him to have surgery because why does a chest have to mean masculinity, why can't it be individual based and personality based instead of appearance?
I absolutely hate gender roles.
This really gets me when it comes to women, especially trans f to m, because from who I've talked to it seems that the only reasons why they are going through with it is because they feel like they need to have a man's body to be seen as masculine. And while that may be true, they are perpetuating gender roles by doing surgery because it's like they are saying, yeah patriarchal society, you are right, I can't be seen as masculine or strong unless I'm a guy so I'm going to go have surgery. That is what scares me the most. Why cant women with curves and breasts be seen as strong, heroic, tough, rational, intelligent, etc?? In the same way where why do porn stars feel like they have to get breast implants to be sexy, or more womanly? I think that if society weren't so strict on gender roles and what it means to be a woman, or a man then maybe transexuality wouldn't exist. And I'm not saying that to suggest that transexuality is a problem and people should just deal with their issues on their own time. What I am saying is that I'm glad people are questioning their gender because it questions society's constructs which need to be broken down, but I'm not so happy with their decisions on how to deal with those issues because I feel like instead of addressing the bigger issue at hand- society, they just go along with society and say, well then I must really be this gender, and then go through all these painful surgeries to fit in. And that's just not fair, I dont think they should feel like they have to do that in order to be seen in a certain way.
I realize that I probably have very idealistic views and part of me knows that trans people do have to change their appearance to be treated or seen in the way they want to be seen, but I still feel like there needs to be more effort put towards changing these gender roles and social hierarchy.
I've always been unsure about transexuality but never knew why. I figured it was just because of my lack of knowledge and I've never been one to dislike anyone because of it. If anything I've been very supportive of everyone I've known who has gone through a transition or even just questioned themselves. Now I'm starting to see why I might not agree with transexuality and I'm willing to discuss this with anyone who has more knowledge of this because I know I'm no expert. So these are my reasons...
I am very passionate about there being a gender spectrum.
A gender spectrum by definition would mean that a boy can be biologically a guy and still want to do feminine things. The spectrum theory is very individual based and it makes it so there aren't any pressures to be a certain way if you think or act in this way. You and you and that's all there is to it. This however goes against what has been drilling into our society for centuries of gender roles. Since I believe that you can still be biologically a guy but seen as soft, beautiful, and delicate I don't see a reason for him to have surgery because why does a chest have to mean masculinity, why can't it be individual based and personality based instead of appearance?
I absolutely hate gender roles.
This really gets me when it comes to women, especially trans f to m, because from who I've talked to it seems that the only reasons why they are going through with it is because they feel like they need to have a man's body to be seen as masculine. And while that may be true, they are perpetuating gender roles by doing surgery because it's like they are saying, yeah patriarchal society, you are right, I can't be seen as masculine or strong unless I'm a guy so I'm going to go have surgery. That is what scares me the most. Why cant women with curves and breasts be seen as strong, heroic, tough, rational, intelligent, etc?? In the same way where why do porn stars feel like they have to get breast implants to be sexy, or more womanly? I think that if society weren't so strict on gender roles and what it means to be a woman, or a man then maybe transexuality wouldn't exist. And I'm not saying that to suggest that transexuality is a problem and people should just deal with their issues on their own time. What I am saying is that I'm glad people are questioning their gender because it questions society's constructs which need to be broken down, but I'm not so happy with their decisions on how to deal with those issues because I feel like instead of addressing the bigger issue at hand- society, they just go along with society and say, well then I must really be this gender, and then go through all these painful surgeries to fit in. And that's just not fair, I dont think they should feel like they have to do that in order to be seen in a certain way.
I realize that I probably have very idealistic views and part of me knows that trans people do have to change their appearance to be treated or seen in the way they want to be seen, but I still feel like there needs to be more effort put towards changing these gender roles and social hierarchy.