That's a tough one. You make a good point though--the way we react to news is half the way it's given, and who we are naturally. I know people who wig out over the teeniest bit of bad news.
Because the kids are so young, it's difficult. All they'll know is that there is something wrong with mommy. To many adults, cancer just means a slow end, how much worse will it be for a child? and to hear that about your own mommy? Mommy is your world when you're 3 years old.
Children that young CAN get depressed. But does that mean you spare them entirely?
A friend of mine had polio when her son was 3. He was told his mom was sick, and he could see her become weaker. He became clinically depressed--cried all the time, wouldn't eat, clung to his mom.
If at all possible, I would consult a pediatrician first. I think it always helps to get a professional's word. Doesn't mean you have to go the route they advise, but at least you've got a prospective on it.
Either way, best of luck to your family. I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin, and wish you all the best.
your advice is amazing! Unfortunately I got it after the fact due to the lack of internet thing.
I sat the girls down and told them the deal, how we just support their mommy by helping each other out. I told them if they had any questions or concerns I'm always here for them, and so are their other aunts and their grandparents. They asked a few questions, one was even knowing enough to ask what kind of cancer and what stage she's in. It was amazing how much they knew about stuff and because they had some sort of understanding, they know that her chances are excellent at a speedy recovery. After reading your response, I called my cousin and told her to call the school counselor for help and to let the kids know they can go to the school counselor too.
So far so good.. as good as can be.. thank you sooo much for your input, it really prepared me for more than just the now..
You make a good point though--the way we react to news is half the way it's given, and who we are naturally. I know people who wig out over the teeniest bit of bad news.
Because the kids are so young, it's difficult. All they'll know is that there is something wrong with mommy. To many adults, cancer just means a slow end, how much worse will it be for a child? and to hear that about your own mommy? Mommy is your world when you're 3 years old.
Children that young CAN get depressed. But does that mean you spare them entirely?
A friend of mine had polio when her son was 3. He was told his mom was sick, and he could see her become weaker. He became clinically depressed--cried all the time, wouldn't eat, clung to his mom.
If at all possible, I would consult a pediatrician first. I think it always helps to get a professional's word. Doesn't mean you have to go the route they advise, but at least you've got a prospective on it.
Either way, best of luck to your family. I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin, and wish you all the best.
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I sat the girls down and told them the deal, how we just support their mommy by helping each other out. I told them if they had any questions or concerns I'm always here for them, and so are their other aunts and their grandparents. They asked a few questions, one was even knowing enough to ask what kind of cancer and what stage she's in. It was amazing how much they knew about stuff and because they had some sort of understanding, they know that her chances are excellent at a speedy recovery. After reading your response, I called my cousin and told her to call the school counselor for help and to let the kids know they can go to the school counselor too.
So far so good.. as good as can be.. thank you sooo much for your input, it really prepared me for more than just the now..
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