Helplessness
Certainly My Achilles Heel, and I would guess it's the same for a lot of other people.
Helplessness is the one feeling that I find incredibly hard to deal with. It's very nature works against you as it is borne from a loss of control in a circumstance.. I have additional issues with helplessness because I spent a lot of time feeling that way when I was small.
It elicits various responses according to situations and people. A man grasped by helplessness may well steal food to feed his children, because he feels helpless at his inability to provide. A victim of domestic abuse may snap and retaliate one day driven to do so by the feeling of helplessness of their situation.
For me, It's nothing so desperate. However I then need to feel of use or practical value. It's a way of re-establishing some control over something to overcome the feeling. Being a logical person, it manifests practically. So I'll obsessively do a task until I feel in control of something. More often than not for me it will be cleaning or cooking. Both serve to de stress me somewhat, have practical value, and have a tangible result.
Today I had to deal with an increasing feeling of helplessness. An inability to help. Practically or otherwise. I dealt with this by reminding myself there would be an opportunity to do something later....
Failing to have ingredients to bake and it being a bit late to hoover didn't really help
I guess the point of this ramble is to remember that to combat this, all I actually need to do is take control of something, however small. This evening, when it became a bit too much and I felt that what little I could do wasn't working, rather than panic and get upset over it, decided to go for a walk and clear my head a little. That act, in itself, had the effect of overcoming that feeling.... as a result I returned, way too warm, having slightly overdressed, but remembering that actually there's more than one way to deal with this.
Helplessness is the one feeling that I find incredibly hard to deal with. It's very nature works against you as it is borne from a loss of control in a circumstance.. I have additional issues with helplessness because I spent a lot of time feeling that way when I was small.
It elicits various responses according to situations and people. A man grasped by helplessness may well steal food to feed his children, because he feels helpless at his inability to provide. A victim of domestic abuse may snap and retaliate one day driven to do so by the feeling of helplessness of their situation.
For me, It's nothing so desperate. However I then need to feel of use or practical value. It's a way of re-establishing some control over something to overcome the feeling. Being a logical person, it manifests practically. So I'll obsessively do a task until I feel in control of something. More often than not for me it will be cleaning or cooking. Both serve to de stress me somewhat, have practical value, and have a tangible result.
Today I had to deal with an increasing feeling of helplessness. An inability to help. Practically or otherwise. I dealt with this by reminding myself there would be an opportunity to do something later....
Failing to have ingredients to bake and it being a bit late to hoover didn't really help
I guess the point of this ramble is to remember that to combat this, all I actually need to do is take control of something, however small. This evening, when it became a bit too much and I felt that what little I could do wasn't working, rather than panic and get upset over it, decided to go for a walk and clear my head a little. That act, in itself, had the effect of overcoming that feeling.... as a result I returned, way too warm, having slightly overdressed, but remembering that actually there's more than one way to deal with this.