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Yesterday my girls came over for a sleep-over which was tons of fun. I left work a little early and I cooked for them before we headed to the movies to see Clash of the Titans in 3D. The movie was mediocre at best (like I expected) and was really short. I was a little disappointed by the 3D. I thought there would be more stuff flying right at you. So, meh. After the movie we went out for a drink and then we chatted some more.
This morning I made breakfast and then we went shopping. I found three really cute shoe stores nearby but I needed to buy other stuff first, so new shoes will have to wait. It was nice outside so we decided to walk instead of taking the subway. We bought some stuff, had a drink (fruit smoothies, yum!), stopped by the new Apple store in town and then walked back to my place to have coffee. The girls left about 1 hour ago.
One of them said something today that really has me thinking and that makes me wish I had said something. A little background first: I've been friends with these girls almost all my life. It's gonna be 21 years with one this fall and 17 years with the other. We come from the countryside, small-town Bavaria where people tend to be a little more conservative. Both their parents are a lot more religious than mine and while neither of them is actually overly religious themselves, their background is different from mine. I suppose they've both seen their shares of the world and they're not generally narrow-minded people, but I guess in a way they're just not used to some things.
I bought a bunch of DVDs today because I've been in the mood to actually see/own a few movies I've always liked. I bought Inside Man, Milk and Brokeback Mountain (I'm hormonal today and I think I'm in the mood for a good cry *g*, plus I've been lusting after Jake Gyllenhaal lately). When my friends asked what I was going to buy, I showed them the DVDs and one commented "Gay movie, gay movie and Inside Man" while flicking through them. There was something in her tone that really set me off and that I can't put a finger on.
Her tone wasn't disgusted and I don't think she meant it as a homophobe comment at all. Maybe more like "I won't be interested in these". Or maybe more like "Didn't know you'd like movies with LGBT themes". I don't know. Earlier she had made a comment about two guys holding hands in the mall. All she said was "they were holding hands". Again, she didn't sound disgusted, more surprised. I'm blaming this on the fact that she simply comes from a different background and that living in large cities and having the interests I have, I'm just not noticing these things anymore (just like I won't notice a straight couple holding hands).
Does that make her a homophobe? Does it make her an uneducated person? I don't know. I wish I had said something after her comment about the movies. Even if it only had been a simply "So what?"
Gah.
This morning I made breakfast and then we went shopping. I found three really cute shoe stores nearby but I needed to buy other stuff first, so new shoes will have to wait. It was nice outside so we decided to walk instead of taking the subway. We bought some stuff, had a drink (fruit smoothies, yum!), stopped by the new Apple store in town and then walked back to my place to have coffee. The girls left about 1 hour ago.
One of them said something today that really has me thinking and that makes me wish I had said something. A little background first: I've been friends with these girls almost all my life. It's gonna be 21 years with one this fall and 17 years with the other. We come from the countryside, small-town Bavaria where people tend to be a little more conservative. Both their parents are a lot more religious than mine and while neither of them is actually overly religious themselves, their background is different from mine. I suppose they've both seen their shares of the world and they're not generally narrow-minded people, but I guess in a way they're just not used to some things.
I bought a bunch of DVDs today because I've been in the mood to actually see/own a few movies I've always liked. I bought Inside Man, Milk and Brokeback Mountain (I'm hormonal today and I think I'm in the mood for a good cry *g*, plus I've been lusting after Jake Gyllenhaal lately). When my friends asked what I was going to buy, I showed them the DVDs and one commented "Gay movie, gay movie and Inside Man" while flicking through them. There was something in her tone that really set me off and that I can't put a finger on.
Her tone wasn't disgusted and I don't think she meant it as a homophobe comment at all. Maybe more like "I won't be interested in these". Or maybe more like "Didn't know you'd like movies with LGBT themes". I don't know. Earlier she had made a comment about two guys holding hands in the mall. All she said was "they were holding hands". Again, she didn't sound disgusted, more surprised. I'm blaming this on the fact that she simply comes from a different background and that living in large cities and having the interests I have, I'm just not noticing these things anymore (just like I won't notice a straight couple holding hands).
Does that make her a homophobe? Does it make her an uneducated person? I don't know. I wish I had said something after her comment about the movies. Even if it only had been a simply "So what?"
Gah.