More questions.
One of the following questions was edited a bit to guard the annonimity of the person.
"When did you figure out you were poly? When you did figure it out, were you embarrassed or confused?"
I didn't figure out that I was poly untill my current relationship started, but I had always felt different than most people when it came to relationships. I always knew that I was different, and the relationship structure deemed by society as being appropriate was not what was going to make me happy. I just didn't know I had other options untill I met M and began walking down a road towards being poly. I was not embarrassed by becoming poly at all, I found it happilly and with great interest. I was confused and a bit scared of the unknown factors of a new relationship structure, and in some ways, a way of life. It took me quite awhile to get over the learning curve of being poly, in fact, I still learn new things about myself, my relationship, and being poly on a regular basis.
"Does the fact that your partner has kids ever frustrate/bother you?"
No, it really doesn't. Granted, it makes scheduling more difficult at times, and our interactions around her younger ones needs to be moderated. But, I knew going into my relationship with her that her kids are a part of her life and thus were going to be a part of my life as well. In fact, I absolutely love her children. In a very real way they have become like my kids as well. Granted, I have no desire to try to replace their father in anyway, but I have come to love them as if they were my kids too. My relationship with her oldest daughter, A, is a unique relationship as well. She has become a friend and taken a sister-like role in my life. I like to think she comes to me as a friend and looks upto me as a big brother like figure as well.
"When did you figure out you were poly? When you did figure it out, were you embarrassed or confused?"
I didn't figure out that I was poly untill my current relationship started, but I had always felt different than most people when it came to relationships. I always knew that I was different, and the relationship structure deemed by society as being appropriate was not what was going to make me happy. I just didn't know I had other options untill I met M and began walking down a road towards being poly. I was not embarrassed by becoming poly at all, I found it happilly and with great interest. I was confused and a bit scared of the unknown factors of a new relationship structure, and in some ways, a way of life. It took me quite awhile to get over the learning curve of being poly, in fact, I still learn new things about myself, my relationship, and being poly on a regular basis.
"Does the fact that your partner has kids ever frustrate/bother you?"
No, it really doesn't. Granted, it makes scheduling more difficult at times, and our interactions around her younger ones needs to be moderated. But, I knew going into my relationship with her that her kids are a part of her life and thus were going to be a part of my life as well. In fact, I absolutely love her children. In a very real way they have become like my kids as well. Granted, I have no desire to try to replace their father in anyway, but I have come to love them as if they were my kids too. My relationship with her oldest daughter, A, is a unique relationship as well. She has become a friend and taken a sister-like role in my life. I like to think she comes to me as a friend and looks upto me as a big brother like figure as well.