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So today was actually a really nice day.
My boys have been away camping since Sunday and I have been going up to the house every day to feed Max and Gus, (the Border Collies) and Lucy (the latest addition feline), pick up after the dogs, (ewwwww), water the vegetable garden, collect mail, record various television programs that my brother in law just can't live without and all that type of stuff.
What has been interesting to watch has been Sebastian's reaction to not seeing Auntie Jayne, Uncle Mark and the boys when we have been up there. Sunday night he spent most of the hour or so we were there opening doors looking for them. Monday he pretty much did the same thing, Tuesday he looked, and then decided to just play with the cars and things in the toy room.
But I think he really missed them. They came here for lunch today, and he just would not leave them alone at all...was like shit on a blanket.
Got his bed together today. Have to say it looks, in the words of Dylan "COOOOOOL AS MAYYYYYTE". One side rail is still to go on, but one of the holes is not drilled out enough so I took it up for the brother in law to do at some stage.... more than likely before Tuesday as he returns to work.
We ended up having dinner, which of course the boys loved.
When we were leaving, Lach and Dylan got into the car as well, and told their mother and I that were coming to my house for a sleep over and Jayne could go watch a movie with Mark. Was cuter than it sounds. But the really cute part was when Dylan said " I am staying with Sebbie cause he does not have a brother". Would have been the perfect opportunity to tell the kids about the baby, but I am very conscious of telling them, especially Lachlan.
Lachlan is 9 going on 39... and gets a little protective sometimes. ANd while it may seem as simple as telling Lach I am having a baby, he will have so many questions and neither myself or his mother want to lie to him. But he will want to know who the dad is, which is an easy one...Tris. Then he will want to know where Tris is....also somewhat easy as he knew Tris had moved out, and he was concerned about it so I told him (which was true at the time) that we still get on very well, we are more like best friends, i go visit him and he visits me and Sebastian, (he was even here when Lach was here and so on).
It will be the questions that arise such as "why is Tris not coming to see you and the baby Aunty Ky?" "Why isnt Tris going to the drs appts with you?" "Why doesnt he want to be around his kids?" truly this kid is so much older than his age.... it is hard for me to explain here, it will just cause much concern from him for me and that is NOT how it should be...he should NOT have to worry about his Auntie or his cousins, and I can tell him not to until I am blue in the face, but it won't help.
So we are just trying to figure out a way to fill in the blanks for him. ANd it is easy to say he is 9 he does not need an explanation, but you know what, sometimes kids do, and his questions will be valid and understandable, especially given most of his friends have parents that live together, and any that are seperated, certainly are not having babies.
Anyway, as my sister said today when she saw me...."holy fuck Kylie it is has only been 5 days since I saw you and you are just out there", so it wont be much longer before Lach says something i suspect. HE actually made the comment last friday night when I took the 3 boys to the carnival, "Grandma you nearly have all your grandkids in the car" ....... which struck me as a funny thing to say when the only grandkids are Sebastian, Lach and Dylan.
Anyway dinner was wonderful, the kids had fun, i watched video of the boys learning to ride waves, very funny, Dylan did spectacularly well, and Lach showed his style and grace by falling off the board doing his "king of the world" impersonation... although in his case it could be the "Diva of the Decade".