time w Evelyn: they speak my language & believe in me / positively overwhelmed / playing by heart

[belenen]

icon: "connate (the characters Keenan and Joan from "Playing By Heart," facing each other with their faces so close that their noses almost touch, both with eyes almost closed, wearing slight smiles)"So since I last wrote about them I've had two dates with Evelyn, and both times they came to my house AND there was no big struggle to plan or need to

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groping for something here

[redbird]

It feels like there is, or could be, a tension or even contradiction between trusting someone to be truthful, and trusting them to be able and willing to say what they mean. I can say "that doesn't sound like you" to someone I'm close to (or have known long enough to know what sounds like them), but I don't want to squelch a new idea or risky personal revelation by telling someone "that doesn't sound like you."

Digression, feel free to ignore: I'm assuming here that the people you're close to know that you are way off at one end of the bell curve for some things (as one of my partners would put it), and won't say "that doesn't sound like you" when what they mean is "nobody talks like that" or even "people don't really think that way," because they haven't run into it before. In particular, my partner doesn't get jealous. That sounded to me like an advantage, since it's an emotion I dislike feeling, except we're living in a world where most people have been jealous at least once; my partner described not getting it as being like a color-blind person trying to understand color well enough to interact with people who assume that everyone sees in color.