me on LJ vs me on FB: beginning work to correct perceptions of me by being more open on FB

[belenen]

icon: "revolutionary (a gif flipping through four of my nude self-portraits in dancy poses lit by natural light, showing my soft rounded body)"I had a conversation with Cass the other day about the way people perceive me through facebook. She told me that I come across as very judgemental and hasty to dismiss people as unworthy; that she in the

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[kmiotutsie]

I've always thought of social media platforms as very different environments. lj was always like hanging out in an intimate coffeeshop, where people came to have in-depth conversations; sit and stay for a while and get to know you. facebook is more like a crowded warehouse where everyone is talking loudly; sometimes it's friendly and sometimes it's intense but mostly it's just loud and a little overwhelming. When someone posts a status it's like getting up on a soapbox with a megaphone-- you might still be drowned out, but you're trying. On the same token, it's not an environment where the people present are often in a space to have that same kind of intimate connection, you know what I mean? Also, a lack of feedback might or might not accurately reflect who is observing; I frequently read the lj posts you link to fb without leaving feedback, often because I'll open the link in a new tab on my phone or something and it will be quite some time before I have the time and mental space to read it, by which point I'm not longer on facebook. I can't speak for everyone, but I get similar feedback from my facebook friends list: people will PM me to tell me that they LOOOVE the links I post and they read them all the time, but they'll refer to things I posted that got nary a like/share/comment. Hard to ever tell, so I just post what I wanna. But yes. your internet personalities are definitely different, but it's also two (plus) very different environments!

[belenen]

it is so odd to me! I dunno, maybe it's old-fashioned to expect some kind of response if people are reading? Maybe that was the olden days and people have gotten less participatory and more spectator-y.