an 'about me' that is exceedingly dense and comprehensive.

[belenen]

icon: "vivacious (my face with bold cat-eye makeup, with my head tilted down and to the side, looking at the camera with a wide close-lipped smile, hugging myself)"
There is a steep learning curve for most people to be close with me because I am so different from the default in identity, values, and language.

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[belenen]

that first paragraph scared me as people often say something mean after that! But no worries, for one I am not easily offended. I assume the best intentions and am only offended when someone has an attitude like "I care more about doing whatever I want than I do about hurting people."

And I found this comment SO encouraging and it made me so happy!

About reclaiming slurs -- if someone takes it on as a positive label for themselves and they are a person who would have that slur aimed at them, then I am in complete support of it. I really never hear b**** used in a positive way though -- it's often defiant, but people use it like they're saying they're proud to be a mean, selfish person, and in my opinion that is not reclaiming, it's reinforcing. Sl*t I do hear used in a positive and reclaiming way, but there are some issues there with regards to race and gender and it gets complicated. The main thing that keeps me from using it is that if I don't stop and thoroughly explain, the person listening may assume the opposite of what I mean and then I have reinforced the thing I don't want to. So rather than use it and explain it I just don't use it.

Thank you thank you for this comment <3