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Hugs are the usual greeting in my group of friends, and are not uncommon among my family and the families of other southern people I know. (some people take this so far as to hug others without asking first, which is horrible) It's also a really common method of comforting via the
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Emotional presence is very important for me too. There are situations where it's less important, like if they're upset about something and can't take their mind off it, that's understandable. But if someone's just not bothering to be present and there's no reason for it, then I just end up feeling annoyed.
I have a couple friends who are shorter than me, and a couple others who are taller than me, and I find the hight differences awkward in both directions. I haven't been able to find a solution for how to stand which isn't equally awkward, unless there's something to stand on. Our hugs tend to be on the longer side (like 10-20 seconds), which makes standing with bent knees uncomfortable. A wider stance might work, now that you mention it. I also like sitting hugs with those friends, because then the hight difference is not that noticeable.
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I've noticed the whole patting thing with the spousebeast's guy friends. It's a very dude bro thing, in my book. The funny thing is that the few who hug me do the same thing to me, as if to say "I totally don't see you as anyone I could ever be attracted to. Ever."
Ah, cis straight white guys. They are a fascinating subject of study. At a distance. ;)
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(Also agree on the low back thing. In a hug? VERY sexual. If someone did that to me and I wasn't expecting it and didn't feel that way, I would not respond favorably.)
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