too many variations to out myself in a sentence / wordweaving & thought remodeling are central to me

[belenen]

icon: "queer (the Transcending Boundaries logo with the words "genderfree, queer, + trans / never a 1 or 0" overlaid on it)"I realized as I filled out the national trans survey that the reason why I don't explain my gender to people more often is that I have too many variations from the default that would need explaining, and I don't want to center

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[kehlen]

"those cr*zy id*ots" implies

I don't know the proper word for it, "estrangement" perhaps, but it really hurts when people you know laugh at certain groups as a whole, and imply that the group are id*ots. And when other present immediately join into that laughter that means estrangement, that means separation: "we are not them" (we are better than them). It's like the group of people that does it are marching to some horrendous tune, and it's difficult and scary to try and make your voice be heard over it, and cowardly not to. And knowing that even if you try to stop the laughter they will likely look at you as some weirdo and not really hear you.

I think I have said the same thing you did in different words.

[zirochka]

the more education one gets, the less equals in this respect one sees around. do most people know what oppressive language is? i don't think so. rather than judging by what someone said, i prefer considering their intent. even if the words come as hurtful, i make a step farther to investigate the intent and then decide on my reaction to those words. for me, revoking my trust from someone is easy compared to learning to communicate at the level of that person. but... i don't always have mental resources for that, so trust might be lost anyway.