allosexual, asexual, demisexual, grey-asexual definitions & explanations & poll

[belenen]

icon: "queer (the logo for Transcending Boundaries Conference overlaid with the words "genderfree, queer, + trans / never a 1 or 0")"
A person who experiences sexual attraction in a way that matches the norm is called allosexual.
A person who never experiences sexual attraction is called asexualA person who experiences sexual attraction only in the

Comments

[aubkabob]

My sexuality has always been extremely confusing to me. I will go through long phases where I don't think about sex or physical intimacy at all, then hit a short phase where I think about it a LOT. I consider myself 80% hetero (I generally fantasize about men but occasionally feel a strong attraction towards a woman), but am usually completely oblivious to people around me in a sexual manner. It's almost when I do hit the patches of sexualness, I'm more attracted by the idea of it all instead of the actual act.

I'm also sad I missed out on the truth or truth today. My work schedule has caused me to flake on several occasions with many people. I've hit a point where I really need to write stuff down and plan in advance to wake up super early (I woke up at 10 pm your time). I'm not a flaky person by nature and truly hope that I can get my brain in order to be able to function with "day folk" again.

[belenen]

I had one really strange period where I was sexually attracted to everyone and felt really ravenous about it. I think it was because I was having physically satisfying sex for the first time in years, and living with someone who was also experiencing that. It was sort of my reclaiming of my body, but I found it really uncomfortable and was glad when it stopped.

No worries from me about missing ToT, I will definitely invite you to the next one!

[aubkabob]

Thank you! I can't tell you how much I appreciate people's understanding as I get accustomed to my new schedule. I'm getting much better at writing things on my calendar.

[kehlen]

I don't really fit any of these categories, even though I've experienced attraction to someone based on their looks/smell (both strangers and people I knew to be quite deep) and attraction that died quite abrtuptly when the person turned out to be shallow. I also don't really feel the physical need to act on the attraction I might feel.

So I'd say I have elements allo, and demi and a in me.

[belenen]

hm, yeah, it's an interesting mix!

[hands_cupped]

I somehow only recently learned about gray-ace and I was just like..... ..... okay.... yep.

[belenen]

*grins* I understand that feeling.

[belenen]

<3

[song_of_copper]

I’d say allosexual is the best fit for me. It is fairly rare that I feel sexual attraction solely in a Type 1 manner, but it does happen. In some ways I feel like I ‘try not to feel’ attraction based only on external factors, but I’m learning simply to allow that - to let myself notice desire where I find it, and respond in a natural way

[belenen]

There really are so many ways to experience desire! I am sorry for your regrets around that, I can empathize. I'm glad you have learned more of how to embrace your desires in whatever form they take!