follow-up: frustrations about overall friend situation not about individuals

[belenen]

icon: "analytical (a close-up photo of my eye in bright sunlight, showing the green and grey and roots-looking patterns)"On being "too busy" - for me, there is not a number of cancellations or rejections of my invitations that is too much; it's more about how that happens and the results that matter. Anyone local can tell you that I am often too

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[aubkabob]

I love you.

That is all.

I was thinking about you today and smiling when I was perusing a gift shop at the hospital, there was something there that was vivid, yet muted in colors. I can't remember what exactly it was, but know that warm thoughts were thunk of you today!

[belenen]

aww <3

[delicatexflower]

i feel the same way, but i'm not busy. my issue is my chronic health problems. they got worse after both my parents died. some people i know local people here probably think i don't care or i'm lazy, but i wish some people took the time to understand chronic health problems.

i know how busy you are--it would overwhelm me deeply, so i think it's beautiful and wonderful you have such an open heart & mind after all of these years <3

[belenen]

yes! I wish people took the time to understand people different from them. The world would be so much better.

[pallid_regina]

Lately I've found myself giving, well, me (and others) permission to just not want to. I don't hold people being busy against them but, also, sometimes I think it's really important to acknowledge that you have been busy and you'd like some time to NOT be obligated or busy, as well. Too often I think we feel like if we're not filling every moment that we're being "bad" or doing something "wrong" which is a real bummer if you think about it.

So, yeah, I hear you.

[belenen]

YES. People need down time, alone time, and are so often shamed for it.