on the 'rudeness' of canceling/lateness caused by chronic pain/fatigue/anxiety/depression and/or ADD

[belenen]

icon: "strong (a photo of me in warm light with my hair down around my face, staring intensely into the camera in a defiant mood)"Note: if I say something problematic please mention it because I'm talking about some things I don't have personal experience with (chronic pain/fatigue/anxiety) so I may be off-base and have no idea

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[rosiekittie]

I don't know you, but I have ADD too.... And while I don't get anxiety from worrying that I will offend (Mostly because I've decided not to give a fuck) I seriously relate to your struggle of remembering/not remembering and remembering that one thing that one time but too late to do anything about it.... It sucks. It really does. Especially when your partner is getting angry because you can't back up the thing you just said, and now you're contradicting yourself even though you didn't mean to say that first thing in the first place but you've said it and now you have to defend it, because we all say what we mean right? Well, no. We don't. I rarely say what I mean because I can't. Even if I had a fully formed thought in my head I couldn't get it to come out of my mouth in a fully formed sentence. I also can't remember what it was I just said, so now I'm saying how I feel now, but that's not what I said before... Rinse, repeat.

I have very little advice here, there's not much to give unfortunately. Make your lists, keep them in the same place. Read the whole list sometimes (if you remember... Haha). Try to keep your sanity, and love yourself no matter who you disappoint or offend. You only have you at the end of the day.... It's hard enough when the world won't love you, you don't have to join in.