Comments | belenen: what nourishes me in friendship: self-care/growth/awareness, shared passion/enthusiasm, creating...

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what nourishes me in friendship: self-care/growth/awareness, shared passion/enthusiasm, creating...

Mar 23, 2015 15:18

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A friend asked me what nourishes me in friendship, and after thinking on it, this is how friends can nourish me:

1. self-care/growth/awareness. This is far and away the most important, the thing that nourishes me most in spending time with someone (whether virtually or in ( Read more... )

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lilywolfsolomon March 23 2015, 20:52:29 UTC

Awesome.

I am still so fucking shy with you. And it fucking frustrates me!

That is not all. But yeah.

lilywolfsolomon March 23 2015, 20:53:36 UTC

I'ma do this too.

lilywolfsolomon March 23 2015, 20:56:33 UTC

I hope I expressed that I love feedback as far as nourishment, as often as possible, in the sort of way that one might give feedback about physical touch: a little more to the left, a little higher, more pressure, smoother motions, etc. I want to calibrate myself to be as nourishing as possible to you. Don't be afraid to be rough with me, to tell me exactly how it is, don't be afraid to hurt my feelings. I want to know, always. Your not being afraid to hurt me and giving pointed feedback is actually nourishing.

lilywolfsolomon March 23 2015, 22:15:32 UTC

Stepwise therapy, that's what I call this, upon finishing my own post. I want to do lots more stepwise stuff in my journal, if you have any ideas. It helps me clarify things. To communicate things in ways I hadn't before.

lilywolfsolomon March 23 2015, 23:18:03 UTC

I'm curious what in particular you like to create since you didn't provide any examples. :)

(And I know I'm asking way more questions than you're able to answer, that's okay, I just has a curiousness.)

kmiotutsie March 24 2015, 00:17:02 UTC

Your #1 is my #1 right now too! Self care and personal growth are paramount, and the ones who don't put a lot of stock in this are the ones I find it the most tiresome to be around. Though I guess if they're close to me and I care about them it's easy to be patient, I don't think I'd want to seek out a closer relationship with someone who wasn't invested in their personal development. *solidarity* ^_^