being alone to be creative / NOT AN INTROVERT / that binary excuses oppressive microaggressions

[belenen]

Lately I've been spending a lot of time alone, because I was trying to get out of the habit of spending 6 nights a week at Topaz' house so I took a week of staying home, and then the icestorm added more to that. And with enough time alone, I've gotten creative things done that had been lacking for YEARS

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[sabr]

This all makes perfect sense to me, even though it's not really the way I function. I need to learn to disengage more - I'm always multi-tasking, my mind always reeling, chained to the never ending tasks that my phone prompts me to do.

Also, as an aside, I have never pegged you as an introvert, and I am kind of shocked that Kylei would comment that you were, lol.

[kmiotutsie]

1. I never realized that you don't do unplanned IMs until the other day when I glomped you and you happened to respond, and told me that!! So funny ^_

[countessdeweird]

You make really good points about microaggressions and the intro/extrovert thing. I'd never thought of it that way before. I'm a bit of an introvert regardless, but going places with people who are likely to express unintended bigotry is exhausting in so many ways beyond the regular.

[virginia_fell]

I feel this so much. Socializing can be fun but tiring for me, unless I am socializing with people who "don't count." Those are the people that I know are safe, that I know won't force me to shift into outgoing entertainer mode. I can just be who and whatever I am at that moment and it'll be okay.

Those people don't count toward my socialization limit.

I think this really hits on why.

Thanks!

[delicatexflower]

this! i have the same problem. a lot of people like to label me an introvert because i value my alone time. i am very friendly, giving and loving -- but that takes a lot of energy and focus for me because i love to give everything my all. i'm also aware of all my surroundings (little noises even) and sometimes i need uninterrupted alone time where i am working on myself and having much needed rest. i dislike how in our society it's you either this or that. there's no gray.. not everything is black and white. you know? and we could use more gray people in this world i think!