Maybe it's not that they think I'm too 'nice' but that I've got it too easy.
I don't know whether it's the case here but as an alternative view on this, I often feel incredibly strong guilt for sharing whatever adversity I'm going through (be it financial, the ongoing health saga etc. etc.) with my partner who currently has what anyone would consider a cushy life. I feel like it makes our relationship unfair when Joost sails through everything and I'm a drama followed by a crisis followed by a disaster, like I'm taking too much out of him and being a burden. I used to bite my tongue a lot when asked how I was because I didn't see the point in making both of us miserable even though I know now that dishonesty makes things worse.
Again, I can't say whether this is what might've happened here as I don't know either of you well enough but as someone who can also be horribly self-loathing, I wanted to give you a real example of a similar situation where there's nobody to blame.... Or something along those lines that's coherent and makes sense ^^;
Oh, all too familiar with that feeling! For me, it's my family 'back home' that are a source of constant drama. I know I could cut ties with them, but until they do something truly wrong I can't bring myself to.
I don't know whether it's the case here but as an alternative view on this, I often feel incredibly strong guilt for sharing whatever adversity I'm going through (be it financial, the ongoing health saga etc. etc.) with my partner who currently has what anyone would consider a cushy life. I feel like it makes our relationship unfair when Joost sails through everything and I'm a drama followed by a crisis followed by a disaster, like I'm taking too much out of him and being a burden. I used to bite my tongue a lot when asked how I was because I didn't see the point in making both of us miserable even though I know now that dishonesty makes things worse.
Again, I can't say whether this is what might've happened here as I don't know either of you well enough but as someone who can also be horribly self-loathing, I wanted to give you a real example of a similar situation where there's nobody to blame.... Or something along those lines that's coherent and makes sense ^^;
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