A Christian could feel that a Jew was missing out on their Christian way of life - but is that really tolerance in action?
Yes. Since the two people do not share the same view, it is likely that they both feel that the other person is missing out -- because that is the literal truth! Both views have aspects that the other doesn't; that's what makes them different. People live in ways that they feel bring them the most benefit, so for them their way has more benefit than any other way and they are likely to feel that.
Is that acceptance of the idea that ... are getting something out of the lifestyle choice which the ... person just can't see?
I DO see that BDSM practitioners get something out of their lifestyle choice which is positive. I said that as clearly as I could. It just wouldn't be good for ME.
Do you really feel that the statement 'yes I will feel that homosexuals are missing out on other possibilities if they mainly experience homosexual sex' is one that - even with the benign wording - sounds tolerant to you? Or
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It is not likely, because not everyone feels that their choices are better than other people's just because they enjoy them more.
at no point did I say that my choices are 'better' -- where are you getting that? I don't even BELIEVE in an objective 'better,' so it doesn't make any sense to me.
And by using the phrase 'missing out' I am not seeking to point out any differences, just to explain what could possibly be interpreted as me 'judging' so that if someone would be upset by that I am not guilty of thinking it 'behind their back' so to speak. To me it is not negative but to someone else it might be.
Since the missing out is mutual, I fail to see how it is divisive. I guess it must have a different connotation for you that I just don't see.
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Yes. Since the two people do not share the same view, it is likely that they both feel that the other person is missing out -- because that is the literal truth! Both views have aspects that the other doesn't; that's what makes them different. People live in ways that they feel bring them the most benefit, so for them their way has more benefit than any other way and they are likely to feel that.
Is that acceptance of the idea that ... are getting something out of the lifestyle choice which the ... person just can't see?
I DO see that BDSM practitioners get something out of their lifestyle choice which is positive. I said that as clearly as I could. It just wouldn't be good for ME.
Do you really feel that the statement 'yes I will feel that homosexuals are missing out on other possibilities if they mainly experience homosexual sex' is one that - even with the benign wording - sounds tolerant to you? Or ( ... )
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at no point did I say that my choices are 'better' -- where are you getting that? I don't even BELIEVE in an objective 'better,' so it doesn't make any sense to me.
And by using the phrase 'missing out' I am not seeking to point out any differences, just to explain what could possibly be interpreted as me 'judging' so that if someone would be upset by that I am not guilty of thinking it 'behind their back' so to speak. To me it is not negative but to someone else it might be.
Since the missing out is mutual, I fail to see how it is divisive. I guess it must have a different connotation for you that I just don't see.
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