I don't like your ideas any more than you like mine. But I'm not showing "stubborn and complete intolerance of any creed, belief, or opinion that differs from [my] own." I'm not saying you have to agree with me or else you are bad, wrong, or any negative thing. However, YOU are saying that if I don't agree with YOU then I am bigoted and intolerant. There is nothing intolerant about my beliefs. Being 'tolerant' doesn't mean liking everything the same, or associating with every person on the planet -- it means recognizing each person's journey as equally valid, which I do. Your way works for you, great. Feel free to do whatever you want -- I'm not even the slightest bit interested in changing your mind. I don't have to like what you do or consider it the best way in order to be tolerant. Being tolerant means that if I was suddenly given the power to stop anyone from ever using BDSM, I would not do it. If I was suddenly given the power to force every BDSM participant to read my opinions on the subject, I would not do it. I don
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you cannot judge another person and what works for them
Exactly. I am not judging anyone who participates in BDSM. I have some friends whom I highly respect who participate in BDSM, and I believe that they have good motives and know what they are doing. I do not have a stereotype of people who participate in BDSM -- I realize that they're just as varied as the rest of humankind. My views are not antiquated, as they have never been popular in the history of humanity (most people believe that power is necessary in human styles of relating). I wrote two more posts on the subject of sex and power, which are much more clear -- you are welcome to read them if you'd like.
My dislike of BDSM is not a judgment of people who participate. It is just a statement that in my goal for my life, BDSM would be a road block. Others who do not share the same goal of eliminating power/control from their relationships would obviously not be hindered by BDSM.
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Exactly. I am not judging anyone who participates in BDSM. I have some friends whom I highly respect who participate in BDSM, and I believe that they have good motives and know what they are doing. I do not have a stereotype of people who participate in BDSM -- I realize that they're just as varied as the rest of humankind. My views are not antiquated, as they have never been popular in the history of humanity (most people believe that power is necessary in human styles of relating). I wrote two more posts on the subject of sex and power, which are much more clear -- you are welcome to read them if you'd like.
My dislike of BDSM is not a judgment of people who participate. It is just a statement that in my goal for my life, BDSM would be a road block. Others who do not share the same goal of eliminating power/control from their relationships would obviously not be hindered by BDSM.
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