letter from Danielle & postcard from Vee / curvygirls conflict

[belenen]

I had the bestest day! I got my Supreme Beings of Leisure CD in the mail, AND a beautiful postcard from bluebl00d AND a long letter from boobiequeen!!! Oh that so made my day. ;-) I have the best friends! I can't wait to get enough postcards to actually start my collage. And usually I'm an anticipation person, but I really loved being surprised by Danielle's

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[writer_lilies]

Let's see if I can put this tactfully...I'll just apologize beforehand if you find anything in here offensive. It shouldn't be. Anyway, that community kinda pissed me off because there were those size guidelines. I ended up leaving after I read that too. It was just one of those "Well EXCUSE ME!" moments. I mean it's your community and you can write whatever rules you want, but when I was there and I don't know if it's still there or not, the user info said something about not posting pictures of obese people. I was thinking, well wtf? I AM obese by medical standards. By my own standards, I'm gorgeous and will be in any size because I know who I am inside and out.

Then I was wondering if you meant obese like those messed up cards they have at Spencer's with the ladies with tons of rolls (which are probably airbrushed and photoshopped) since I know some idiot troll would take things too far and probably post something like that trying to be funny.

Needless to say I was a bit torn.

Either way, I see where you're coming from. I just wanted to say my piece. I'm not mad at you or anything like that and I left damn near a year ago. This just reminded me that I felt similar to those girls. Other than my own hang up, I thought you attracted a very nice group of pretty people. I still might re-join and post a picture of myself though. If I can ever get my damn camera working.

[belenen]

heh, that's why I edited the rule to explain better what I actually MEANT:
2. No posting photos of unhealthy or 'enhanced' women. (that means no photos of anorexic, obese to the point where it seriously inhibits health and mobility, or surgery-enhanced women. We understand that those women can be beautiful too, but we're here to celebrate healthy, natural curviness.)

Because yes, I meant women who were SERIOUSLY inhibited by weight. The ones who use the motorized carts at Wal-mart, you know?

Healthy weight really is relative, it differs from person to person. Two people of the exact same age and height and bone structure are not designed to be the same weight! And muscle weighs more than fat, so the healthier of the two could easily weigh more.

But the community was created in June, so you couldn't possibly have left nearly a year ago. hee hee! ;-D

I'd love to have you come back. Oh, and go look at my most recent post, the bellydancing photos! There are some bellydancers who would be categorized as being 'obese' -- but obviously if they bellydance they're healthy enough!

[writer_lilies]

June? Seems like it's been longer than that. Well five months is nearly a year. ^^;

[belenen]

heh, you have about as good a concept of time as my husband does. ;-D

[writer_lilies]

Everything just starts to meld together after a while.