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So many of my IVF friends are giving birth, which makes for very happy news.
I have one buddy from my IVF class that cycled close to me and got pregnant. She’s about 2 weeks ahead of me and we email but she hasn’t responded to me lately. I’m a bit concerned but feeling awkward over emailing her again to check in. I really hope everything is OK.
Friday I had a good OB appointment. My blood pressure is still on the high end but they don’t think it is medication worthy at this point. I’m going back in two weeks. I also changed doctors but not practices. I had a discussion with the nurse who seems really nice and she suggested I try another person at the clinic. This is a female and though I have never minded men I feel like this is an experience I want to go through with a female. I haven’t met her so I can’t say I am happy yet but I’m feeling better just knowing I will be seeing a new person. If I love her then I’m going to have to get over “being at a practice that my managers wife went to.” If she isn’t awesome then I guess we’ll have to go back into search mode.
Fred went home this weekend and had a grand time. He got back yesterday and we were all giddy to see each other but there was something he did while away that bothered me. We had a great chat catching up but when I addressed my frustration he left the room. What the problem? Fred has acted “upset” about me asking him not to share the news. He is very close to three guys and has been desperate to tell them. I wouldn’t call myself a worrywart but I’m still uneasy with blasting the news and I think I have valid concerns. My spotting returned last week. I have these constant pains in my side that my doctors say aren’t normal but can’t seem to give me an answer to. Per doctors orders I had to take a day off last week. So yeah, I still have fears. But even so, I feel upset with myself for holding him back from telling his friends who I know he is very close to. Finally I’m like fine, tell them. I want to be better about telling people so I felt like giving him the OK was a step in the right direction. I guess he felt me giving in meant he can tell anyone.
I was really angry when I figured this out but now I’m more annoyed and disappointed in his lack of good judgment. Fred doing this, isn’t really surprising. He never thinks things through. I think when you look at the whole picture it’s easy to come to the conclusion that not everyone needs to know. Tell your best friend of 16 years but maybe not the half sister you haven’t seen in 20 years and your wife didn’t even know existed until being with your for 4 years.
I know people want to say that “he’s just so happy” but if you know Fred then you wouldn’t say that. He is happy but him sharing the news is about him not thinking and him putting other people first. It’s typical Fred behavior and I’ve been on him about it for a while and I just don’t want to be the one thinking all the time. And for once I want him to consistently put my feelings above those of his friends and long lost family members.
So we’re not talking and I’m not giving in.
So many of my IVF friends are giving birth, which makes for very happy news.
I have one buddy from my IVF class that cycled close to me and got pregnant. She’s about 2 weeks ahead of me and we email but she hasn’t responded to me lately. I’m a bit concerned but feeling awkward over emailing her again to check in. I really hope everything is OK.
Friday I had a good OB appointment. My blood pressure is still on the high end but they don’t think it is medication worthy at this point. I’m going back in two weeks. I also changed doctors but not practices. I had a discussion with the nurse who seems really nice and she suggested I try another person at the clinic. This is a female and though I have never minded men I feel like this is an experience I want to go through with a female. I haven’t met her so I can’t say I am happy yet but I’m feeling better just knowing I will be seeing a new person. If I love her then I’m going to have to get over “being at a practice that my managers wife went to.” If she isn’t awesome then I guess we’ll have to go back into search mode.
Fred went home this weekend and had a grand time. He got back yesterday and we were all giddy to see each other but there was something he did while away that bothered me. We had a great chat catching up but when I addressed my frustration he left the room. What the problem? Fred has acted “upset” about me asking him not to share the news. He is very close to three guys and has been desperate to tell them. I wouldn’t call myself a worrywart but I’m still uneasy with blasting the news and I think I have valid concerns. My spotting returned last week. I have these constant pains in my side that my doctors say aren’t normal but can’t seem to give me an answer to. Per doctors orders I had to take a day off last week. So yeah, I still have fears. But even so, I feel upset with myself for holding him back from telling his friends who I know he is very close to. Finally I’m like fine, tell them. I want to be better about telling people so I felt like giving him the OK was a step in the right direction. I guess he felt me giving in meant he can tell anyone.
I was really angry when I figured this out but now I’m more annoyed and disappointed in his lack of good judgment. Fred doing this, isn’t really surprising. He never thinks things through. I think when you look at the whole picture it’s easy to come to the conclusion that not everyone needs to know. Tell your best friend of 16 years but maybe not the half sister you haven’t seen in 20 years and your wife didn’t even know existed until being with your for 4 years.
I know people want to say that “he’s just so happy” but if you know Fred then you wouldn’t say that. He is happy but him sharing the news is about him not thinking and him putting other people first. It’s typical Fred behavior and I’ve been on him about it for a while and I just don’t want to be the one thinking all the time. And for once I want him to consistently put my feelings above those of his friends and long lost family members.
So we’re not talking and I’m not giving in.