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AWESOME. i love it when you do that.
fu.
early stages of my fat girl syndrome theory.
-this comes from much of my experience in high school and also from my keen observation of the way teens will act socially. mainly my observations in how adolescent girls will interact with each other, someone of a different race, opposite gender and also someone with a body image different from their own.
* girls are never happy with their body. this is my first observation. no matter what there is always going to be something about your body that YOU do not like. to someone else it may seem trivial or insignificant, but something like thinking you have large thighs can keep a young girl back. it will become much like a weight she must carry on her back, and it will slow her down socially.
* girls will be the first to notice something good about another girl. she has nice hair. she has big boobs. she has a flat stomach. she has a nice body. and so on, other girls bodys become an obsession for them. i want a body like j lo. i want a smile like her, i want jessica simpsons hair. what have you.
* girls will always, no matter what in the back of their head think "im too fat" and in a lot of cases it begins to define their personality. they begin to act like the "fat" girl.
THE FAT GIRL THEORY:
-who is the fat girl?
WE are all the fat girl. we are become the girl who we hate. we obsess about how we look. girls who are overweight, and even girls who are not begin to live vicariously through the lives of the people they think are skinnier and better than they are. they go shopping and try on a dress and think to themselves "i look too fat in this dress. this dress makes my butt look huge. if only i had HER body." and slowly in their mind they being to adopt the idea that they are not good enough because they do not fit into a dress that say, no woman with all her ribs intact could comfortably wear anyway!! they have a distorted image of who they really and truly are. this is true of girls who society had deemed overweight (as of now that would be any girl who wears anything higher than a size 10.) someone who is clinically overweight (a BMI that will exceed 29 based on height and age) or even the girl who can pull on the OO they now carry at stores such as abercrombie and fitch. ALL OF US ARE UNHAPPY.
-how do we identify the fat girl?
we can see the fat girl come out in many different situations. as the fat girl we become uneasy, we become introverted, we do not like to draw attention to ourselves because we are unhappy about who we are. most of the time, we want to go unnoticed. the fat girl is the one who is sitting who a group of her friends not saying anything. she is the one who dosent try on bathing suits or prom dresses when she goes to the mall with her girlfriends. she is the one who always changed in the bathroom stalls during PE class in high school. when we are playing the roll as the fat girl we become very obsessive of how we eat. we do not like to eat in public fearing someone will see us and HEAVEN forbid we actually eat once and a while. it is here that anorexia nervousa and bulima nervosa are born. food becomes a game for us. when we are the fat girl we do not feel comfortable around boys. we become awkward and shy. we avoid confrontation because we do not want to have the boys take pity on us. we become jealous of our friends who we have begun to believe look better than we do. we do not feel pretty or sexy because in the back of our heads we are afraid to COMMIT. why? as the fat girl we have become so concerned with how we are looking we avoid committed relationships because we a) do not think we deserve it and b) we think there is someone better than us out there and its only a matter of time until he finds her and leaves me.
*it is however, important to remember that the fat girl is anyone. it can be ANY girl. the fat girl is not necessiarly the girl you see walking down the street and say to yourself "wow that girl could stand to lose a few lbs." the fat girl syndrome is a MENTAL problem that women and girls suffer from. they fail to see how beautiful and unique they are and they get this notion that they are not good enough because they do not maintain a certain look. it is when you see a girl and think they could stand to lose a few that you INJURE that girls spirit. you may not say it out loud, but she can READ YOUR EYES. by the way you look at her she can hear your voice in your own head condeming her to the fat girl syndrome.
this is the early stages. its going good i think.
fu.
early stages of my fat girl syndrome theory.
-this comes from much of my experience in high school and also from my keen observation of the way teens will act socially. mainly my observations in how adolescent girls will interact with each other, someone of a different race, opposite gender and also someone with a body image different from their own.
* girls are never happy with their body. this is my first observation. no matter what there is always going to be something about your body that YOU do not like. to someone else it may seem trivial or insignificant, but something like thinking you have large thighs can keep a young girl back. it will become much like a weight she must carry on her back, and it will slow her down socially.
* girls will be the first to notice something good about another girl. she has nice hair. she has big boobs. she has a flat stomach. she has a nice body. and so on, other girls bodys become an obsession for them. i want a body like j lo. i want a smile like her, i want jessica simpsons hair. what have you.
* girls will always, no matter what in the back of their head think "im too fat" and in a lot of cases it begins to define their personality. they begin to act like the "fat" girl.
THE FAT GIRL THEORY:
-who is the fat girl?
WE are all the fat girl. we are become the girl who we hate. we obsess about how we look. girls who are overweight, and even girls who are not begin to live vicariously through the lives of the people they think are skinnier and better than they are. they go shopping and try on a dress and think to themselves "i look too fat in this dress. this dress makes my butt look huge. if only i had HER body." and slowly in their mind they being to adopt the idea that they are not good enough because they do not fit into a dress that say, no woman with all her ribs intact could comfortably wear anyway!! they have a distorted image of who they really and truly are. this is true of girls who society had deemed overweight (as of now that would be any girl who wears anything higher than a size 10.) someone who is clinically overweight (a BMI that will exceed 29 based on height and age) or even the girl who can pull on the OO they now carry at stores such as abercrombie and fitch. ALL OF US ARE UNHAPPY.
-how do we identify the fat girl?
we can see the fat girl come out in many different situations. as the fat girl we become uneasy, we become introverted, we do not like to draw attention to ourselves because we are unhappy about who we are. most of the time, we want to go unnoticed. the fat girl is the one who is sitting who a group of her friends not saying anything. she is the one who dosent try on bathing suits or prom dresses when she goes to the mall with her girlfriends. she is the one who always changed in the bathroom stalls during PE class in high school. when we are playing the roll as the fat girl we become very obsessive of how we eat. we do not like to eat in public fearing someone will see us and HEAVEN forbid we actually eat once and a while. it is here that anorexia nervousa and bulima nervosa are born. food becomes a game for us. when we are the fat girl we do not feel comfortable around boys. we become awkward and shy. we avoid confrontation because we do not want to have the boys take pity on us. we become jealous of our friends who we have begun to believe look better than we do. we do not feel pretty or sexy because in the back of our heads we are afraid to COMMIT. why? as the fat girl we have become so concerned with how we are looking we avoid committed relationships because we a) do not think we deserve it and b) we think there is someone better than us out there and its only a matter of time until he finds her and leaves me.
*it is however, important to remember that the fat girl is anyone. it can be ANY girl. the fat girl is not necessiarly the girl you see walking down the street and say to yourself "wow that girl could stand to lose a few lbs." the fat girl syndrome is a MENTAL problem that women and girls suffer from. they fail to see how beautiful and unique they are and they get this notion that they are not good enough because they do not maintain a certain look. it is when you see a girl and think they could stand to lose a few that you INJURE that girls spirit. you may not say it out loud, but she can READ YOUR EYES. by the way you look at her she can hear your voice in your own head condeming her to the fat girl syndrome.
this is the early stages. its going good i think.