ugh. This is going to sound mean of me but because I'm slightly older than you and can recognize my younger years in this entry, I think I can give my insight. Just remember I'm not siding with your parents or trying to hurt you, I'm just trying to point out what I've noticed in the past three years of my 'growing up' and what will help you in the long run.
Yes, your parents are definitely going to treat you younger because of all the medical problems and whatnot which, to an extent, is understandable because they're worried that something bad might happen. Remind them that even though it's been a long, hard road, you're still here and still working and trying and making the best for yourself. That even though many people would have given up years ago, you haven't and still want to have a good future. Sometimes people only see the negative parts of situations like that, they don't notice that you're still here, that you're still going.
its just frustrating having them tell me a million times to clean my room, or wash the dishes or clean up after myself. I think situations like that are big proof to your parents that you might not be ready to move out on your own. They're afraid that your place will be dirty all the time and you won't have clean dishes and you won't be able to handle daily chores because you don't do them now. Prove your parents wrong by making these boring tasks a daily thing. Maybe you don't have to clean up your room all at once, but organize some areas from time to time. After you eat off a plate or use a fork/spoon/knife immediately go wash it. I mean right afterwards, that way you won't forget about it later. I know that I still have trouble cleaning up after myself at times but I try to just take everything with me at once so I won't have to walk back and forth around the house to get things I left in the other room.
Do not, and I mean DO NOT, use your age as a reason for being an adult. That's basically the worst thing a teen can do because it isn't proof at all. Think of it as writing an essay - you have a point to prove and you need to back up that idea with examples. Instead of saying something like 'But mom, I'm 18, I can take care of myself!' (which has not back up support to prove your point) say something like 'Mom, I know that my age shouldn't really come into effect of my maturity, but over the past few years I feel I've grown as a person and should be given more responsibility to take care of myself.' Saying that goes back to the first point I made about you going through hard times and still being here. Remind them that you've been through a lot and you feel as a result you're a strongr person and should be given more respect and responsibility to take care of yourself. If you have actual proof (not your age) to back up your opinion, they'll be more than willing to loosen some boundaries.
I hope some of this helps you get through to your parents. Maybe write it out in a letter to them so you'll avoid the instant fighting which may make them and you madder. When they see the proof and know that you want to make something of yourself (as in, not be a big baby and depend on them forever) then they'll definitely want to negotiate some rules and allow you to show your independence and be happy.
I'm always here for you and love you lots, always remember that!! <33
Yes, your parents are definitely going to treat you younger because of all the medical problems and whatnot which, to an extent, is understandable because they're worried that something bad might happen. Remind them that even though it's been a long, hard road, you're still here and still working and trying and making the best for yourself. That even though many people would have given up years ago, you haven't and still want to have a good future. Sometimes people only see the negative parts of situations like that, they don't notice that you're still here, that you're still going.
its just frustrating having them tell me a million times to clean my room, or wash the dishes or clean up after myself.
I think situations like that are big proof to your parents that you might not be ready to move out on your own. They're afraid that your place will be dirty all the time and you won't have clean dishes and you won't be able to handle daily chores because you don't do them now. Prove your parents wrong by making these boring tasks a daily thing. Maybe you don't have to clean up your room all at once, but organize some areas from time to time. After you eat off a plate or use a fork/spoon/knife immediately go wash it. I mean right afterwards, that way you won't forget about it later. I know that I still have trouble cleaning up after myself at times but I try to just take everything with me at once so I won't have to walk back and forth around the house to get things I left in the other room.
Do not, and I mean DO NOT, use your age as a reason for being an adult. That's basically the worst thing a teen can do because it isn't proof at all. Think of it as writing an essay - you have a point to prove and you need to back up that idea with examples. Instead of saying something like 'But mom, I'm 18, I can take care of myself!' (which has not back up support to prove your point) say something like 'Mom, I know that my age shouldn't really come into effect of my maturity, but over the past few years I feel I've grown as a person and should be given more responsibility to take care of myself.' Saying that goes back to the first point I made about you going through hard times and still being here. Remind them that you've been through a lot and you feel as a result you're a strongr person and should be given more respect and responsibility to take care of yourself. If you have actual proof (not your age) to back up your opinion, they'll be more than willing to loosen some boundaries.
I hope some of this helps you get through to your parents. Maybe write it out in a letter to them so you'll avoid the instant fighting which may make them and you madder. When they see the proof and know that you want to make something of yourself (as in, not be a big baby and depend on them forever) then they'll definitely want to negotiate some rules and allow you to show your independence and be happy.
I'm always here for you and love you lots, always remember that!! <33
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