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[beautyimagined]

before we even understand the concept of values they are put upon us. these are your values, this is what you believe, this is how you should feel, this is what you think. morals, beliefs, ideas, values, thoughts, feelings, rules- it's all thought up for us before we understand what they are and what options we have. and once you're able to understand different concepts and start to create your own personal identity you're judged. it starts with something simple like a little girl is supposed to like pink not black and then it expands into life shaping choices. suddenly to admit or pursue one's own identity is to break social code, to put a shift in the system, and for that you're judged. simple things that everyday we take for granted, we are able to make our own choices, but if you make the "wrong" ones you are judged and possibly outcasted. and if you're constantly having to defend your own values how can you feel comfortable with them and if you aren't comfortable with them are they what you truly want/believe. naturally, you want to feel like it's ok to be who you are and think what you think, feel what you feel, but if it's always questionned there's the feeling like you need to defend it. if you're comfortable with you should the judgements put you on the defense or shoudl you be able to walk away with out a flinch at being outcasted?

::it's like constantly fighting a war, more havoc can be raised all around, up and up it piles but rather than getting rid of some of the confusion it only adds to it.