He's At it AGAIN
Well, my dad is at it again. Being a complete and total A-hole to my mom about her Parkinson's. He has ZERO patience for her and instead of helping her out of bed, chairs, walking etc slowly, he yanks her up just as fast and hard as he can. He is not a "caregiver" type person, but he has been shown and taught, even went to a free class at the Parkinson's association and still he doesn't even make an attempt to help her out properly.
So then they hired a care taker to come in 4 days a week to help out my mom. He doesn't like that idea either because it is too expensive. So there are two things that will help this out, time (being patient going slower) or money (hiring someone who is patient) and he doesn't want to do either.
So now I talk to my mom several times a week and have to listen to her cry over the phone about how rough my dad is with her and how cheap he is and won't hire any help.
Finally, my mom goes 3X a week (M, W, F) to the Parkinson's fitness class at the YMCA. It is 6 miles from the house, about 15 minutes to get there in traffic. Now my dad is bitching that its too far away and he doesn't have the time to take her. This is the ONE thing that my mom can do locally that makes her happy, gets her exercise and social interaction (which she desperately needs) and my dad is just flat out too lazy and selfish to be bothered.
So, as typical, I have to be the parent to my parents at this stage in life. They are supposed to be the older wiser ones making decisions and instead they rely on me the other way around.
VERY ANGRY at my dad right now.
So then they hired a care taker to come in 4 days a week to help out my mom. He doesn't like that idea either because it is too expensive. So there are two things that will help this out, time (being patient going slower) or money (hiring someone who is patient) and he doesn't want to do either.
So now I talk to my mom several times a week and have to listen to her cry over the phone about how rough my dad is with her and how cheap he is and won't hire any help.
Finally, my mom goes 3X a week (M, W, F) to the Parkinson's fitness class at the YMCA. It is 6 miles from the house, about 15 minutes to get there in traffic. Now my dad is bitching that its too far away and he doesn't have the time to take her. This is the ONE thing that my mom can do locally that makes her happy, gets her exercise and social interaction (which she desperately needs) and my dad is just flat out too lazy and selfish to be bothered.
So, as typical, I have to be the parent to my parents at this stage in life. They are supposed to be the older wiser ones making decisions and instead they rely on me the other way around.
VERY ANGRY at my dad right now.