Family Matters
I am so disappointed in mine and Chad's families. No one makes an effort to visit Ivy. NO ONE. We go months without seeing grandparents. My mom lives 10 minutes away (not even), my dad lives almost 2 hours away (understandable), Chad's dad lives 45 minutes away but drives to Winnipeg everyday for work, literally passing by our neighbourhood on the way. It is so disappointing.
My mom: SO socially lazy. Would rather be at work or the casino then spend time with Ivy or clean her house. I dislike going there because it is so dirty. My mom lives with my grandma who is 91. My grandma does more physical labour then my mom does. My mom is so frickin lazy in every aspect of the word. She had to get a handicap pass for her car because she can hardly walk. Well, if you took care of yourself, did some walking, didn't eat only sugar and butter and fat, maybe you wouldn't be in such poor health. She is disorganized and somewhat of a hoarder (but not TV show bad). She last say Ivy March 8th because I organized a bday lunch for my grandma. Then we saw her yesterday, April 20th for Easter. She never calls. (maybe once in that month and a half). I know I could call her, but I get so angry. UGH. All she got for Ivy was a crappy dollarama stuffed easter bunny. She doesn't need that. Get her some colouring books or reading books. Ivy would have no idea who she was unless I kept showing her pictures saying "Grandma". UUGGGGHHHHH!!!
My dad: Him & his wife moved out to their cabin in the fall. They used to live 20 minutes away and would stop in frequently, but now that they live almost 2 hours away and don't come to the city often, they don't see us as often. When they do come to the city, they make sure to pop in for a visit, even a short one if they don't have much time. My dad can get annoying though, he always asks "Did you see what I posted on facebook?" FB and his phone have become a major part of his life (I am thinking he will be 69 next week, I always forget my parents' ages). I don't care what you posted on FB. I care that you spend time with your granddaughter so she knows who you are. He popped in Saturday for 5 minutes to do some measuring on our shed, came into the house, asked about FB, coloured with Ivy for 2 minutes, then was gone. Didn't even bring her an Easter gift.
Chad's mom passed away the summer of 2012. She didn't even get to meet Ivy, and she probably would have been the one grand parent who would have shown the most interest and pride.
Chad's dad: UGH. I could care less if that man came over, but he is Chad's dad. Ivy's other grandpa. He lives in Steinbach which is about 45 min from our place. But like I said, he drives to work in Winnipeg everyday. It would take him an extra maybe 5 minutes to stop at our place for a visit. He has seen Ivy maybe 5 times since she has been born almost 16 months ago. The thing that annoyed me is that he was one of the first people at the hospital when she was born. He could give two shits about us, but the minute we have a baby, there he is... and 4 other times in her life. No easter phone call, drop off of a gift, nothing. FU. Oh, and Ivy is his first and ONLY grandchild. Nice.
I know it's not all about gifts, but it really irks me. My sister's kids are now 16 and 13, the other sister's kids are 12,11,10,7,5.. they all got easter treats growing up. Why is Ivy different? Is it because everyone thinks Chad & I are 'fancy' because we built a brand new house, we have two cars, go on holidays, both work our butts off to get ahead in life? Don't punish Ivy because we are doing good for ourselves.
GIFTS: Let's start with Ivy's first Christmas... My dad got her a couple pairs of pajamas and an outfit. Fine. My mom & grandma got her some books and $100 for her education fund. Great! Chad's dad got her a crappy white teddy bear wearing a blue dress that says 2013 on its foot. Really? Do you know she doesn't really care for stuffed animals? Books or money for her education fund would have been much better. Maybe I am sounding like a brat, but you don't even know her. (Never mind, he got us a cheap bottle of wine, and bottle holder shaped like a moose - yeah, that's really us. Neither of us like wine and a moose wine holder? Which magazine subscription did you get that from?)
Her first birthday: My dad and mom both gave money for her education fund put in a nice first birthday card. Perfect. Chad's dad didn't even bother to bring a card, nevermind a gift. A big FU again.
Maybe that's why I am so bitter and can't be bothered with family. I am getting so worked up writing this down, but I really want to get it down, hoping it will make me feel better.
Maybe another thing that makes me bitter is the way Ivy is treated with my best friend's family. We got invited to their Easter lunch, and they made Ivy feel included. One of the girls organizes an easter egg hunt for all the kids. She got 8 plastic eggs with Ivy's name on them and little goodies inside, and we got to look for them. How fun! And thoughtful. I am also glad I got Ivy a big basket of goodies (colouring books, stickers, a toy) so she has something new to play with.
I should stop here, because I know I could go on and on and on some more.
My mom: SO socially lazy. Would rather be at work or the casino then spend time with Ivy or clean her house. I dislike going there because it is so dirty. My mom lives with my grandma who is 91. My grandma does more physical labour then my mom does. My mom is so frickin lazy in every aspect of the word. She had to get a handicap pass for her car because she can hardly walk. Well, if you took care of yourself, did some walking, didn't eat only sugar and butter and fat, maybe you wouldn't be in such poor health. She is disorganized and somewhat of a hoarder (but not TV show bad). She last say Ivy March 8th because I organized a bday lunch for my grandma. Then we saw her yesterday, April 20th for Easter. She never calls. (maybe once in that month and a half). I know I could call her, but I get so angry. UGH. All she got for Ivy was a crappy dollarama stuffed easter bunny. She doesn't need that. Get her some colouring books or reading books. Ivy would have no idea who she was unless I kept showing her pictures saying "Grandma". UUGGGGHHHHH!!!
My dad: Him & his wife moved out to their cabin in the fall. They used to live 20 minutes away and would stop in frequently, but now that they live almost 2 hours away and don't come to the city often, they don't see us as often. When they do come to the city, they make sure to pop in for a visit, even a short one if they don't have much time. My dad can get annoying though, he always asks "Did you see what I posted on facebook?" FB and his phone have become a major part of his life (I am thinking he will be 69 next week, I always forget my parents' ages). I don't care what you posted on FB. I care that you spend time with your granddaughter so she knows who you are. He popped in Saturday for 5 minutes to do some measuring on our shed, came into the house, asked about FB, coloured with Ivy for 2 minutes, then was gone. Didn't even bring her an Easter gift.
Chad's mom passed away the summer of 2012. She didn't even get to meet Ivy, and she probably would have been the one grand parent who would have shown the most interest and pride.
Chad's dad: UGH. I could care less if that man came over, but he is Chad's dad. Ivy's other grandpa. He lives in Steinbach which is about 45 min from our place. But like I said, he drives to work in Winnipeg everyday. It would take him an extra maybe 5 minutes to stop at our place for a visit. He has seen Ivy maybe 5 times since she has been born almost 16 months ago. The thing that annoyed me is that he was one of the first people at the hospital when she was born. He could give two shits about us, but the minute we have a baby, there he is... and 4 other times in her life. No easter phone call, drop off of a gift, nothing. FU. Oh, and Ivy is his first and ONLY grandchild. Nice.
I know it's not all about gifts, but it really irks me. My sister's kids are now 16 and 13, the other sister's kids are 12,11,10,7,5.. they all got easter treats growing up. Why is Ivy different? Is it because everyone thinks Chad & I are 'fancy' because we built a brand new house, we have two cars, go on holidays, both work our butts off to get ahead in life? Don't punish Ivy because we are doing good for ourselves.
GIFTS: Let's start with Ivy's first Christmas... My dad got her a couple pairs of pajamas and an outfit. Fine. My mom & grandma got her some books and $100 for her education fund. Great! Chad's dad got her a crappy white teddy bear wearing a blue dress that says 2013 on its foot. Really? Do you know she doesn't really care for stuffed animals? Books or money for her education fund would have been much better. Maybe I am sounding like a brat, but you don't even know her. (Never mind, he got us a cheap bottle of wine, and bottle holder shaped like a moose - yeah, that's really us. Neither of us like wine and a moose wine holder? Which magazine subscription did you get that from?)
Her first birthday: My dad and mom both gave money for her education fund put in a nice first birthday card. Perfect. Chad's dad didn't even bother to bring a card, nevermind a gift. A big FU again.
Maybe that's why I am so bitter and can't be bothered with family. I am getting so worked up writing this down, but I really want to get it down, hoping it will make me feel better.
Maybe another thing that makes me bitter is the way Ivy is treated with my best friend's family. We got invited to their Easter lunch, and they made Ivy feel included. One of the girls organizes an easter egg hunt for all the kids. She got 8 plastic eggs with Ivy's name on them and little goodies inside, and we got to look for them. How fun! And thoughtful. I am also glad I got Ivy a big basket of goodies (colouring books, stickers, a toy) so she has something new to play with.
I should stop here, because I know I could go on and on and on some more.