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oh, yeah, and I forgot to post about the serving of the divorce papers. I think I have one of the weirdest "divorce serving papers" story ever.
So I didn't really know how Mike was going to react, though I had a gut feeling he would be ok. Luckily my gut was right.
I waited til the kids were in bed and then gave him the papers. I cried. A lot. And he said he knew the divorce was coming, he just didn't expect it so soon. I cried some more. We talked about it a little bit- custody, child support, how stuff works. I cried. Then all of the sudden he was like, "So you're excited about the van, it's pretty nice?" (I had just gotten it). I looked at him. "You're trying to change the subject?" And he was. He didn't know what to say any more so we talked about the van a little. Then he was like, "I taped Grey's Anatomy. Wanna watch it?" I said, "I bought ice cream. Want some?" We hugged- how fucked up is it that I want physical reassurance and comfort from the same person who has given me such grief? I just felt like I needed to hug him, I am so sad about losing the man that I married- I went and grabbed the ice cream and we sat there watching Grey's with the signed divorce papers sitting on the coffee table in front of us. So messed up.
So we're doing ok and stuff with the divorce is moving forward.
So I didn't really know how Mike was going to react, though I had a gut feeling he would be ok. Luckily my gut was right.
I waited til the kids were in bed and then gave him the papers. I cried. A lot. And he said he knew the divorce was coming, he just didn't expect it so soon. I cried some more. We talked about it a little bit- custody, child support, how stuff works. I cried. Then all of the sudden he was like, "So you're excited about the van, it's pretty nice?" (I had just gotten it). I looked at him. "You're trying to change the subject?" And he was. He didn't know what to say any more so we talked about the van a little. Then he was like, "I taped Grey's Anatomy. Wanna watch it?" I said, "I bought ice cream. Want some?" We hugged- how fucked up is it that I want physical reassurance and comfort from the same person who has given me such grief? I just felt like I needed to hug him, I am so sad about losing the man that I married- I went and grabbed the ice cream and we sat there watching Grey's with the signed divorce papers sitting on the coffee table in front of us. So messed up.
So we're doing ok and stuff with the divorce is moving forward.